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On a Personal Note: Making Moves

“We just didn’t know what we wanted.” My husband said this to me this weekend while we were hanging out on our couch. We realized this week would be the one year mark since we sold the house we lived in for three years, and decided to move into an apartment in the city. The […]

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December 27, 2013 - 11:34 am

Estelle's End of the Year Survey (So Long 2013), Estelle - […] loved the support we’ve been getting on our ONE A PERSONAL NOTE feature… including Magan’s post on foster care + mine on making […]

November 4, 2013 - 4:16 pm

Alexa Y. - Oh E! This post is absolutely beautiful. I’m so happy for you and James, and that you both feel like you’ve made the right decision to make that move into the city. It’s a learning experience to be sure, but you guys sure are having fun while you do it! I can’t wait to see more of what unfolds for you both. I can actually relate to this, albeit in a different way. 2013 is a year of me jumping into various things, really, and it’s been an interesting experience. So much has changed for me this year, and so much will change again come December! Here’s to hoping that our big leaps into something new and unknown completely pay off even more πŸ™‚

November 1, 2013 - 8:15 am

Wendi - I’m inching up close to 40 and looking back into my 20s and 30s the best decisions I made always involved moves. The absolutely best decision was the one that was 900+ miles.

November 1, 2013 - 12:04 am

YAY OCTOBER! - […] but I FEEL THE SAME WAY AS ELENA. I’m learning to just accept this about myself! 5. Loved Estelle’s post on making moves! I can 100% relate to this […]

October 31, 2013 - 7:50 pm

Jamie - Love this post, E! I struggle with making moves in my life. It’s something I’ve struggled with so hard this year. And then I keep wondering why I’m still unhappy about certain things. I get scared and let fear give me a million reasons why it’s not “the right time” to make a move and talk myself out of it. It took all the guts I had to apply to that job in the city and then when it didn’t happen I was SAD but I was embarrassingly thinking, at the same time as being really bummed, that WHEW that would have been scary to move, how would we have afforded it, how could I be away from Genevieve like that, etc. etc.

Your post was really encouraging and what I needed to hear. I’m tired of not making the moves and perpetually being stuck in a standstill.

Happy for you guys! πŸ™‚

October 22, 2013 - 1:28 pm

Lisa Schensted - SO proud of both of you for just going for it! How are you to know what you want until you try?

Be brave!

oxo

October 21, 2013 - 10:43 am

Jess @ Gone with the Words - Such a beautiful post, Estelle. πŸ™‚ I’m glad you guys made a decision that was yours. It’s easy to make decisions based on how it will affect others in your life, putting your own happiness or desires second. ‘Tis life sometimes. So I’m happy you guys are happy. And I hope it continues this way FOOOOOREVEEEEEER. πŸ˜€

October 20, 2013 - 3:03 pm

Heather - This post on getting past the misgivings and doubts was dead-on! A couple of years ago, I was feeling very much the way you did. My husband and I had been I relatively small College Station, TX for quite a few years together, when he got a fantastic job opportunity that took us to Austin. While I thought it would be good eventually, I was so apprehensive about leaving familiarity and family for a larger place, with more unknowns than what we’d dealt with before. Now that we’ve been here for nearly 2 years, it’s been so amazing to see just how right the change was for us in many ways, and how much we needed that push. Of course there are some things that are still not as ideal as they were, but the overall picture is pretty fantastic. May your circumstances become ever better as you grow into the place your lives have brought you!

October 20, 2013 - 9:02 am

Shelve It: A Surprise in the Mail, Estelle - […] On a personal note: Making Moves […]

October 19, 2013 - 1:16 pm

Maggie @ Just a Couple More Pages - When I first started reading I was afraid the thing you didn’t know you wanted was going to be about how it was a mistake to move to NYC. I’m so happy you were right about wanting that and that this last year has been such a good one for you guys. I’ve had lots of changes in my life in the last year and lots and lots in the last 6 months but I couldn’t be happier and more thankful for the changes I’ve made. Back when I was just dreaming about making these big life changing decisions I read this quote from Earl Nightingale (I think on Pinterest) that really resonated with me: “Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”

And I owe you an email, it’s on my list of things to do at work today πŸ™‚

October 18, 2013 - 9:11 pm

Betty - πŸ™‚ holy gorgeous photos!!!
about the post… making big decisions as adults is so scary! we moved into the house we are in 2 years ago and are really happy here, but leaving our old house broke my heart! so much happened in that house— we came home from our wedding to that house, i was pregnant in that house, brought my babies home to that house— and then we were leaving it behind. i remember sitting in baby betty’s room the day we left crying my eyes out because i knew the people moving in had a little boy and would paint right over the walls we so carefully painted just for her! man, i get all emotional just thinking about it! But… here we are.. a couple years later and sure enough, we adapted and are making memories in our new house. i think the most important thing is being with the people you love. no matter where you are or what you are facing, if they are with you, you’ll get through it. I think people miss out on a lot of things because of fear. Sometimes the best things are waiting for us– we just need the guts to take a risk and discover what those things are! <3

October 18, 2013 - 8:59 pm

Natalie - So good. So good!

I like life to be a moving target. When my husband and I sold off our house full of STUFF and moved to NYC, we didn’t have any idea what the future would bring. We have been surprised almost daily ever since.

I always wonder what surprising thing we’ll decide to do next.

And yeah, I miss Target too.

October 18, 2013 - 1:51 pm

ashley - This post came at a much needed time in my life. Thank you for that. I, myself, am learning that it’s okay to jump/leap because this box cane get boring. Sending you luck and love.

October 18, 2013 - 1:40 pm

Ellice - What an uplifting post Estelle! Change is hard sometimes, even if it’s a change that you’re excited about. I’m so happy that this move has ended up being a good thing for you and your husband. πŸ™‚

October 18, 2013 - 10:45 am

Jen @ Pop! Goes The Reader - This was such a beautiful and inspiring post, Estelle, and one that couldn’t have come at a better time for me, personally-speaking. Lately, I’ve often found myself musing over prospect of great change and weighing the possible outcomes in terms of taking chances versus playing it safe as I’ve sought employment in my field of interest. While I’m lucky and thankful to have found steady employment in this economy in the field of law, it could hardly be considered my passion. In truth, I’ve always dreamt of working in publishing in some capacity and translating my passion for books and reading, and more specifically the importance of children’s literature, into a career. Unfortunately, there are few opportunities to do so where I live and I’ve often wondered whether I would have to make a rather drastic change in order to truly get what I want. More specifically, I’ve recently given some thought to moving to an entirely different area like New York City, where there seems to be an increased number of positions available and therefore a greater opportunity to make my dreams become a reality. While it’s an accepted fact that many of our decisions are dictated by fear, I’ve often wondered to what degree this is healthy, particularly in my own life. My fear of moving to an entirely new country where I know no-one and would be entirely on my own has left me frozen in place, too afraid to make a decision and yet unhappy with the current status of my life. I don’t want to become trapped in a career that I don’t find fulfilling, but I don’t know if I have the courage to take a leap of fate and risk it all on the slim chance that I might finally achieve what I’ve only ever dreamt about.

Either way, your own personal story of transition and change was a beautiful one, and I’m so happy that your choices, however difficult, have ultimately paid off. I can only hope that whatever choice I ultimately make will prove half as fulfilling.

October 18, 2013 - 9:12 am

Ginger @ GReads! - Oh Estelle, beautiful personal post that I feel a lot can relate to. It’s so scary to make a huge decision in your life that will change things drastically. I think it’s human nature to second guess yourself & wonder, was this the right move?!

What feels like so long ago now (but really it was just a few years ago) I made the decision to go back to school. I knew it would be a huge shift in my life and would change so much. But I also knew that change would bring great things for my future. It was going to be a lot of work (still is), but it was something I wanted: a job that was more than just a job, a purpose. In the next year my world is about to shift again as I come to an end of my college career and venture into this whole teaching thing. It’s scary to think about because it’s not just my transition from one job (what I do now) to finishing college & beginning to teach. There are so many other factors that come into play like: where will I live? (Yup I’ll be homeless come next summer). How will I make money? (I’ll have to quit my full time job next fall to student teach full time) So so many scary things!!! But I keep reminding myself, these are the choices I’ve made and these are the changes that will occur because of that. Having faith in myself is what gets me through it. You gotta have that. Oh yeah.. and happiness. Always hold on to the little bit of happiness you can find.

I think you’re already doing that πŸ™‚

October 18, 2013 - 9:09 am

alice-jane - This post was really beautiful! I love your personal posts (as well as your reviews!) and this one was really good.

I’ve moved several times and just moved recently, but surprisingly, I’m happy about it. The views that you’ve provided are simply gorgeous and best of luck with everything!

On a Personal Note: The Internet + I

A few weeks ago I was at a bar with one of my friends after a long work day and the guy next to us asked how we knew each other. I kind of laughed to myself because I met Melissa “on the internet.” (She’s the second best thing to a book blogger; she writes […]

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July 22, 2015 - 12:01 am

Friday Rants: Blogger Guilt and a Blog Manifesto - Mostly YA Lit - […] and enjoy and comment on some of the fun, thoughtful, and creative posts out there. In particular, this post by Estelle from Rather Be Reading on her experiences living life online, and the post that she links to about personal blogging and staying true to one’s blogging […]

December 27, 2013 - 9:02 am

Estelle's End of the Year Survey (So Long 2013), Estelle - […] really loved the feedback that I got for my Internet + I post. It was very difficult to hit publish on this one, but I was comforted to see how many people […]

August 11, 2013 - 10:55 am

Alexa Y. - Well, this post is just brilliantly written. You did a great job expressing your thoughts on this internet-person-friendship thing (I’m just making my own combination of words right now, clearly). I know we’ve discussed this before, but I definitely mostly agree with what you have to say here. The people who I love the most on the internet are the ones that come across as just that – PEOPLE. Not brands, not packaged blogs, but real people that I can be friends with. While it’s not always easy to tell what kind of person a blogger is based on their online persona, I like to remain hopeful about the friends I make online becoming friends in real life (like you, obviously).

August 7, 2013 - 11:53 am

Melissa @ Writer Grrl Reads - This is such a well-written post, Estelle. I didn’t realize that you’d studied writing; I thought you were just naturally so good at it! This post rings so true. Since I friended a few of my blogger buddies on Facebook, I find myself mentioning these friends in conversations, such as “My friend in Texas said….” which sometimes leads people to ask, how do you know someone in TEXAS?? And the response is that awkward, “Um, we met on the Internet?” Yet, I feel so blessed to have made these blogger friends, since you all love reading as much as (or even more than) I do. I have friends that read, but none that are as passionate about reading as I am, so it’s so wonderful to have friends to share my passion, even if they live far away and we’ve never met in real life.

In a long winded way, I just wanted to say thank you for publicly, and so eloquently, staring that online friendships are real and genuine. Especially the bookish sort πŸ˜‰ xoxo

August 5, 2013 - 9:48 pm

Asheley Tart (@BookwormAsheley) - E, do you know how much I adore you? Because I think you do. But in case you don’t, you should. xoxo

August 4, 2013 - 12:35 pm

alice-jane - I connected with this post so much. It’s a really thoughtful post. I feel myself holding back from online stuff sometimes and I feel bad (I guess I can’t take the jump from online to IRL just yet). Part of it may lie in the fact that I’m afraid that I might become disappointed in people once in IRL or that I’m disappointing to others. Definitely though, the question of genuineness is still in my head.

August 3, 2013 - 6:52 pm

Aneeqah @ My Not So Real Life - Estelle, this is truly a gorgeous post. I feel like there’s this stigma attached when you say you met someone “off the Internet”. I was trying to explain to my parents a while ago how I knew someone so well at a book signing, and why we were chatting it up even though it was the first time we had meant. It’s a hard concept to grasp, sometimes. But it’s true that the lines are blurring every day. Although I feel like this makes it hard for true geniunism to show up sometimes. I’m always trying to make sure that my blog is ME and I’m who I am, but sometimes when we get caught up in the competitions, it can be so, so hard. It’s the people that really count whom really bring me back, though.

Gorgeous post, Estelle, really. This is kind of blowing my mind.

August 3, 2013 - 2:42 pm

picturemereading - I met my husband online and I know a lot of people think that is really strange!

August 3, 2013 - 11:47 am

molly @ wrapped up in books - Estelle, I loved this post. I was active in a couple other online communities before getting into book blogging, and I have made many friends this way that have translated into real life friends. I also appreciated that “state of the blogosphere” post you linked to. I tend to favor blogs that have a personal and conversational tone over ones that are more promotional.

August 3, 2013 - 11:27 am

Quinn @ Quinn's Book Nook - What a wonderful post, Estelle.

I loved when you said” this internet world really does make us feel less alone.” I couldn’t agree more. The MAIN reason I started a blog was because I saw how close some bloggers were with each other, even if they lived in different places, and I WANTED THAT!

I mean, of course, I love books, and expressing my feelings about books, but more than anything I wanted to connect to other people.

August 2, 2013 - 10:07 pm

Angie - Great post. I have met several friends over the internet. Of course none of them live near me and I met them all on goodreads and have been able to get to know them more on facebook. Glad I am not the only one! I do a project on my blog called Project Disney where I read the books based on the movies and review both the movie and book. You’ll have to check it out. I love Disney!!

August 2, 2013 - 8:14 pm

Sash from Sash and Em - Internet friends ftw! I remember when I was going to meet up with you last summer and my coworkers were like “seriously? your “friend” from the internet? that sounds creepy. call me when you get home so I know you’re safe.” HA. <333

August 2, 2013 - 7:16 pm

Bookworm1858 - Thank for this very personal post-I loved getting to follow your journey a bit and reflecting on where my experiences overlap and agree with yours.

August 2, 2013 - 4:10 pm

Rebecca - I have to confess that I have had so many experiences of getting really emotionally connected to someone via the internet, only to find out I only knew one part of them, that I don’t let myself connect as much anymore. Which is not to say that I am NOT interested in getting to know real people – I so am! I love it! I just hold back from that final step of completely feeling like a Real Life Friend, for a *really* long time. It’s not intentional. I guess I’ve just been burned. I have some internet friends I’ve never met in person whom I’ve known for 13 or 14 years now and I do consider them really true friends, but it seems to take nearly that long for me to get there. I always feel kind of guilty, because I can usually tell if someone else has gotten to that point towards me, and I can feel myself holding back. It’s tough, and it’s specifically because when I was younger most of the people I met and felt very close to ended up being… well, not who I thought they were, and not giving what I expected of them. In retrospect, I think I expected too much, and a lot of that is therefore on me – I’m talking about when I was a teenager. But it did change me and I try not to expect anything from anyone now, and there’s a detachment as a result.

On the flip side, I’m always *really* delighted when I *do* get genuine friendship from anyone. πŸ™‚ Does this make sense? Or does it just make me sound like a cold jerk? LOL! This is a terrific post, btw. Very thoughtful and got me thinking a lot, too! (Of course I end up thinking of “Am I a bad friend?” because that seems to always be my first move: to judge myself. LOL!)

August 2, 2013 - 3:38 pm

Jessica T - Wonderful post my friend! So well said and I think a lot of us can relate. We get wrapped up in the twitter conversations and blogs and do we really know who’s behind that keyboard?? I try to be honest and I am now questioning how I even come across online!! Really something to chew on…

Love you friend. Glad the internets brought us together! πŸ˜‰

August 2, 2013 - 3:33 pm

Layla - YES. This recently happened to me. I think you know most of my friendships were started online (which to me, makes them no different that in person friendships) and one person recently revealed who they really are. That’s just as shocking to me online as it is in person. I consider myself to “know” my online friends and it’s weird when you find out that you don’t, not really. And all it took was that one person to instill distrust in me for a whole group of people, which may or may not be fair. However, it is what it is. I think it taught me a lesson about my online friendships and their sincerity factor, or lack thereof, at times.

August 2, 2013 - 2:57 pm

Anni - Love this post, Estelle. But it makes me sad in a way because I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been mostly lucky in who I’ve met – and I’ve made a few of my closest friends online! – but at the same time, there are definitely those people who come across as so sweet & kind online, and then you meet them, and they don’t even seem to care.

I will say, I feel like the roughest part of the genuine connections we can make online in maintaining them. Most days I feel like I can barely keep up with my business online (especially during wedding season!) and then I realize that it’s been months since I’ve made it to my friends’ blogs, or started a G chat session. And that really does suck, because I feel like if we lived in the same city it’d be so easy to say “hey, let’s have a wine night!” and unplug for awhile. If that makes any sense at all?

August 2, 2013 - 2:24 pm

Tiff @ Mostly YA Lit - Fascinating post, Estelle. I feel like we are definitely in this state of wanting complete “authenticity” in our communication online. We want a brand to answer as a person. We want to know real people, not just people who are promoting themselves. And yes, we deserve that online just as we do in real life. But, as someone who works in public relations, I’m always, ALWAYS cognizant of how I present myself on Twitter, on my blog, on all social media…so I always wonder whether I’m actually putting myself out there, or it’s just a version of myself. I always wonder about taking that leap to real life – whether people will like me, whether I will be the same. I want to be me with my voice, but I do feel like social media is a bit of an easy way to be the best part of me. I feel like I’m definitely funnier and a better “talker” online than I am in real life. So, does being that “best part of me” online inform who I am in real life as well?

All this to say…thanks for making me think, Estelle. I love this post.

Also, I watched your video with your reading husband yesterday, and you guys are so cute! I read in bed with my husband all the time, but we’re not picky about turning away from each other =)

August 2, 2013 - 2:12 pm

Melissa - Love this, you rock, and I adore you. πŸ™‚ (Short & sweet like me haha)

August 2, 2013 - 11:58 am

jennyburgo - This post rang very true for me. Engaging with people online is wonderful – bridging that gap into RL and explaining to your “real life” friends who these people are can get dicey.

I have also found that the desire to be ‘popular’ is just as real in my online life as it is in my real life, and sometimes following those who don’t seem as sincere seems to be a product of that. It’s interesting to see how that plays out online v. IRL. And sometimes sharing opinions that aren’t as widely held can be scary too! But it’s your forum to do that, isn’t?

Great post — I don’t comment here a lot, but I read all the book recs and all the personal post and you and Magan run a really wonderful site <3

August 2, 2013 - 11:48 am

Ashley - I love and adore this post so much. I’ve been thinking more and more about friendships online and off. So yes, thank you.

August 2, 2013 - 11:39 am

Estelle - Thanks lady. I really appreciate that. πŸ™‚ I want to hear all your thoughts!

August 2, 2013 - 11:32 am

Katherine - Estelle. This is a really great post. I am feeling a lot of feelings about this. Thank you for sharing, and for being so genuine.

Being Married to a Reader: Gazing Lovingly at… Books

I’m not even sure how it came up, but Jamie of the Perpetual Page Turner and I were inspired to write these posts when we were talking about our husbands and reading one day. We thought it was funny how my husband was a reader and hers wasn’t. In my head I thought: HOW DOES […]

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August 21, 2014 - 3:35 pm

Bookish Thoughts: My Boyfriend’s Reading Journey | Oh, the Books! - […] The first ones I can recall areΒ Jamie’s “Married to a Non-Reader” post and Estelle’s “Being Married to a Reader” post. Both are quite fun and I definitely encourage you check them out. But today, I wanted to focus on […]

July 30, 2013 - 9:58 pm

VeganYANerds - Hey Estelle & James! Nice to see you both again πŸ™‚

I love that you both read, but that you have different genres and ways of reading. Chris is not a reader, but he has his computer stuff, so while I’m reading, he’s on the computer and we’re both occupied. He doesn’t understand why I love to read or why I read so many books πŸ™‚

July 21, 2013 - 9:35 pm

Alexa Y. - I basically just adore this post. You and James are totally adorable, just saying! (And I really, really, REALLY love that you got him to do the video, and that it was sort of willingly despite being ambushed!). I think it’s pretty great that you’re married to a fellow reader, for all of the reasons you listed up there! I know that it’s one of the reasons that Macky and I get along so well too, because we share a mutual love of stories and books. (And yes, by the way, I have seen James’ ability to be VERY busy when you’re in a bookstore in real life and it’s epic.)

July 19, 2013 - 8:55 am

Candace - My husband loves to read too! It’s a rare thing when I recommend a book he actually likes. It’s a good thing you have this blog to talk with others about the books you read. That is exactly why I recommend books to him, the only thing better than reading a book (good or bad) is talking about it with someone. To be fair, he doesn’t read as much as I do and sometimes I am not into what he’s reading either (he read Infinite Jest). Yay for reading husbands.

July 15, 2013 - 2:53 am

Sana @ artsy musings of a bibliophile - This is a great post. I loved reading yours and Jamie’s experiences.

July 14, 2013 - 12:14 pm

Liz (Along for the Read) - This is adorable, and I am in love with your alphabet print sitting on top of your bookshelves.

July 14, 2013 - 1:08 am

Jasmine Baggenstos - My husband and I both enjoy reading, but he’s a more casual reader. He’ll go a long time without reading anything and then suddenly read a bunch at once. He recently read the first three Heroes of Olympus books in a week or so. He does read YA a bit, but doesn’t love it the same way I do.

It’s nice when I can walk into the apartment after work and be all “give me a few minutes, I’m a super important/exciting/emotional part” and he’s okay with that.

July 13, 2013 - 9:36 pm

Angie - My husband reads sometimes… not as much as I do but he does read. He goes to bed so early that I always have to read in the living room. If he is out of town though I hurry upstairs to read in bed! My dad never reads and I know that must drive my mom nuts!

July 12, 2013 - 12:26 pm

Asheley Tart (@BookwormAsheley) - AAAAAhhhhhhh I adore y’all. You guys are very fortunate. The quiet-time-to-read and reading-together thing is really important to us readers, no?

July 11, 2013 - 11:12 pm

Alisa Selene - My hubby is a reader as well and we like sharing books together..he likes YA but perhaps not as much as I do..his passion is Dr. Who and we are both fans but he reads lots of tie-ins etc.
Loved both of your posts!

July 11, 2013 - 10:27 pm

Amanda @ Late Nights with Good Books - I enjoyed reading both your and Jamie’s takes on this – which is not exactly a small concern for those of us who are voracious readers! That’s so cute and amazing that you two are able to share so many book-related moments together. I’ve been working on encouraging my boyfriend to read in bed with me – I just love doing that at the end of the day. I think he falls somewhere in between being a lover of reading and someone who doesn’t read at all, and it’s fine with me. We share some things book-related, and I get to have some things that are totally mine. That’s awesome, though, that you and your husband are able to share a love of books. It sounds like it really works for you two!

July 11, 2013 - 10:13 pm

Laura @ The Girl and Her Books - Aw, this is so adorable. I’m in no serious relationship, but I can only hope when I am in one he’ll be a reader. I’m not seriously concerned with it, though. I do think it would be really nice for us both to love books. Also your husband is reading my favorite book too! πŸ™‚

July 11, 2013 - 8:53 pm

Tara - YOU GUYS ARE SO FREAKING CUTE!! I enjoyed Pepper’s commentary as well πŸ™‚

July 11, 2013 - 8:05 pm

Leah @ The Pretty Good Gatsby - STOP BEING SO CUTE YOU GUYS. Seriously, this post made me smile & smile.

Sadly, my boyfriend isn’t a big reader. In the few years we’ve been together I’ve seen him crack open maaaybe four books & I’ve yet to hear about him actually finishing one.

Even though he’s not a reader, he supports my love of it 100% which is awesome & doesn’t mind when I need to rant about a book or do a little flailing. πŸ™‚

July 11, 2013 - 2:01 pm

Lauren @ Love is not a triangle - What a fantastic post! You guys are the cutest. Also, I love your bookshelves. My husband only reads when he has gobs of free time, which was earlier in our marriage before kids. Thankfully, he still appreciates books and bookish events, so he’ll listen if I talk about what I’m reading or attend author tours with me. Love that despite your differences, you’ve found something that you both share. Even if you don’t read the same things. Oh and tell your hubs that I LOVE The Phantom Tollbooth too!!

Like you, one of my favorite places to read EVER is the beach! I could sit in the sand all day with a book in front of me. In fact, my family goes to the beach for a week every summer and that’s what I used to do, before I had kids. Then I had a huge wake-up call because they’re little and I actually have to PAY ATTENTION to them when we’re on the beach. It’s a huge bummer ;). I don’t know if kids are on your horizon, but make sure you prepare yourselves for that change, if you have them. Going to the beach is NOT the same. Seriously, it’s one of the hugest adjustments I’ve had to make. Silly, I know. Of course I wouldn’t change it, and I know one day, I’ll be able to read there again.

July 11, 2013 - 1:08 pm

Allison L - Aww! That video is so cute! I’m single but, I’ve always looked for someone who could share my passion for reading. He doesn’t really have to be as into reading as I am but at the same time I really want someone I can discuss thing with on an intellectual level, you know? Or at least if he’s not a reader, I want him to be able to support my love for it. Anyway, this is such a fun post. Off to check out Jamie’s now! πŸ™‚

July 11, 2013 - 1:00 pm

Brittany @ The Book Addict's Guide - You guys are so cute! I LOVE that you had a book-themed wedding! Unfortunately I don’t think Shane is down with that. But that’s okay! I actually gushed over Jamie’s post because that’s exactly how I am with Shane. Do I wish we could connect over books sometimes? Sure. But we each have our own hobbies and I kind of love that. (No competition or disagreeing over books!)
I love that you get to share reading together! Love this pair of posts by you and Jamie!

July 11, 2013 - 11:04 am

bookrockbetty - You guys are so cute!! It must be awesome to have a book lover hubby! It’s nice that you guys share a lot of other passions as well!
Mr. Betty reads a lot of non fiction… but he has been reading some YA fiction lately so that has been fun! I gotta admit, like you, I find it reaaally sexy when a guy reads! The last few weeks have been awesome– every time I look out in the living room after we put the baby bettys to bed he’s been out on the couch with a beer and a book!!! The best part is that it bothers him when I start talking to him. HA!!! How can I complain about that when I GET IT? hahaha Anyway, when he isn’t into a book he does get a little annoyed and jealous of my books, usually because he will say something and I literally don’t hear him. He is also super sweet and makes me tea every night when it is time to read. That is support. lol πŸ™‚ I think it is a win for him too though… if there is something on TV that I’m not into (sports or that stupid wipe out show that i hate.. haha) I’ll just read next to him and it allows him to watch without feeling guilty! <3
PS… Hiii Pepper!! And you lucky duck— i noticed those tattoos!!! πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰

July 11, 2013 - 10:09 am

daphne - y’all are totally cute. i wish my hubby read more, but he’s more of a listening to audio books on the way to and from work, but i gladly support his habit and he puts up with me reading in the car when he’s driving and wants to talk (mostly).

July 11, 2013 - 9:46 am

Ghenet - That video was adorable! πŸ™‚

My husband is a reader but in a different way…he loves audio books! He’s always listening to one, and it’s his preferred method of “reading.” He doesn’t listen to the same kinds of books that I read–he likes non-fiction about sociology, psychology, etc.(think Malcolm Gladwell-type stuff) but sometimes I’ll read one of his NF picks if it sounds interesting to me. And! When I read THE FAULT IN OUR STARS last year I raved about it so much to him that he downloaded the audio book and listened to it. He liked it! πŸ™‚

Anyway, I definitely appreciate that my husband enjoys books (even if he prefers listening) and I agree that it’s important to have separate interests and some “quiet time” at home! It makes the time spent together more special.

July 11, 2013 - 9:28 am

Jamie - You guys are too cute!!! I love both of our posts and, as much as I’m ok with Will not being a reader, I can dream about being able to read in bed together (he better not turn over to the side though!!)

ALSO..omg YES..I am SOOOOO happy that Will understands that beach time is reading time. He just sleeps haha. But his family this past week wanted to TALK TALK TALK. I’m like noooo please stop. I don’t want to have to just ignore you.

ALSO I can’t believe I didn’t add “lets you have a bookish wedding” under my “characteristics a good non-bookish husband should have”…because he totally did!! He even hunted all around the city for old books with me. SIGH. Fail. I should put that on there before he notices πŸ˜›

ALSO HI JAMES!!

Loved that we did this! :))

July 11, 2013 - 9:17 am

Ginger @ GReads! - I love the vast differences between your side of the bed & James’, haha This was such a fun post idea! Loved getting a more personal glimpse inside yours & Jamie’s marriages. As much as I love to read, I have a feeling I’ll end up with someone who’s not much of a reader – but let’s hope he can still appreciate it! lol

July 11, 2013 - 9:06 am

Bookworm1858 - I love it! I’m not in a relationship but one of my criteria is love of reading or willingness to support the love of reading that’s in me (especially in regards to decorating using books.)

July 11, 2013 - 9:00 am

Rachel @ hello, chelly. - My favorite part of this post is definitely the video. You guys are adorable!

And yes – James was very patiently standing off to the side while you, me and Alexa roamed around B&N πŸ™‚

July 11, 2013 - 8:58 am

Cassie - This is so great. Especially the video at the end, HI JAMES! πŸ™‚ Jon is in between, he reads but not much, but he gets VERY into his books when he does, so I suppose I’m in between your answers AND Jamie’s! But hey, it works πŸ˜‰

So glad you and James can share one of your biggest loves, though <3 Since you clearly don't agree on music πŸ˜‰ [don't worry, neither do me and Jon!] hahaha

Love youuu <3 and this!

July 11, 2013 - 7:16 am

Kelly - The hubs is a reader, but only sporadically. Like when he found GoT, I couldn’t get him to do anything because he wanted to read them so badly! Fortunately, he’s content to play some video games while I read on the couch next to him and we lovingly ignore each other for an hour or so, before putting down our respective hobbies and getting out of the house to do something!

July 11, 2013 - 6:54 am

Ramona - Very cute!! Loved Pepper’s comments as well. XO

July 11, 2013 - 6:21 am

Laurie C - I got a kick out of yours and Jamie’s posts on this topic! Both of your husbands were such good sports about it, too!

July 11, 2013 - 1:14 am

Melissa @ Writer Grrl Reads - Omigosh! Did I know that you had a bookish themed wedding? I seem to remember that I knew this already — but I might not have known. It could be baby brain, very possible. In any case: WE DID TOO!!!!!!

Love bookish hubbies. They’re the best kind, in my totally-biased opinion. Although I do wish that my hubby would read less chess, and more of the book that I am constantly recommending to him. I know that he’ll love them all, but he can’t read as fast as I add them to his TBR list πŸ˜‰