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The Beginning of Our Attachment

Estelle and I met at a wedding in Texas. We had this brief serendipitous moment where we connected over books, but that was short lived as we went home at the end of the night. Estelle returned home to New York, married James, and somewhere along the way we connected on Twitter (and then Facebook, […]

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March 27, 2015 - 7:33 am

Leah - ♥ this post is seriously the greatest ever! (hee, after reading Attachments – which I loooved – I told Rainbow she needed to write me the author’s version of a doctor’s note because I stayed up WAY too late to finish it and was basically a zombie at work the following morning!)

March 21, 2015 - 5:05 pm

Brianna - This is such a great story. I love it.

March 21, 2015 - 12:17 am

Kailia Sage - Oh man I absolutely loved this post! It’s nice to see how y’all became friends and how RBR started. I’m always intrigued by background stories.

March 20, 2015 - 6:56 pm

Rachel - Awwwww your friendship is seriously the cutest. I’ve loved watching you guys grow together throughout these last couple of years, and seeing a snippet of how everything began is so cool.

March 20, 2015 - 11:54 am

Meg - This is so sweet — especially because I just read (and loved!) Attachments a few months ago! Honestly, I’m a little envious of your awesome girl friendship. I’ve always had a tough time making and keeping female friends, and this gives me hope that someday an awesome buddy could come into my life rather serendipitously!

March 20, 2015 - 10:57 am

Tiff @ Mostly YA Lit - Is it creepy if I tell you guys that your friendship is one of my favourites in the YA community? I love your blog, I love how much you share with each other and of yourselves. Thank you for sharing this.

*going to run and say I love you to my best book buddy, Sarah of You Should Read This! now*

March 20, 2015 - 10:22 am

Lauren @ Bookmark Lit - This is so cute! <3

March 20, 2015 - 10:12 am

Alexa S. - Reading this post was the perfect way to kick off my Friday morning in the office! I seriously loved getting the chance to see how you guys became friends, and how RBR really started. It’s really cool, and I’m so glad you shared and made Friday that much more wonderful and happy <3

March 20, 2015 - 10:12 am

Alisa @ Papercuttts - D’awwww! And this corner of the internet is happy that you met!

March 20, 2015 - 9:35 am

Andi - This post is the cutest of the cute! I for one am happy you met at this wedding and are friends. I wouldn’t know either of you without it! ♥

When You Relate to a Character You Don’t Like

We all occasionally read books with main characters that we just don’t connect with. Right? Maybe it’s that they’re really judgmental or they’ve done incomprehensible things that we would never do. But…what about those times we don’t particularly like the main character, but meanwhile we’re internally cringing because that person is just like me? I vowed to […]

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January 31, 2015 - 8:36 pm

It's a Wrap | January @ Rather Be Reading - […] Have and To Discard When You Relate to a Character You Dislike What If I Could | […]

January 23, 2015 - 3:28 pm

Alexa S. - I love this post so dang much, M! Thank you, first and foremost, for being willing to be so open and honest with all of us. And second, I can totally relate to what you’re saying! While book characters are never an exact reflection of who I am, I often find traits – likable and unlikable – in them that mirror my own. If I were to choose one character I feel like I could see myself in, it would be Allyson of Just One Day.

January 23, 2015 - 2:27 am

Gaby @ Bookish Broads - I love, love, love this post. I love when I find a book I can relate to on a personal level, both in a current “I’m still going through this” way and in “this happened to me/I could’ve used this book ages ago” way. And, the truth is, sometimes, when I read YA romance books, and also posts like this, I wish I had some sort of high school romance so I could have a love letter for a child to one day awkwardly find in a drawer – it just seems so precious and terrible and hilarious all at the same time. And who doesn’t love moments like that? I hope E has that moment and one day comes to cherish it. Thanks for sharing, Magan!

PS: Love that picture, love those bangs.


In my reading, I’ve tried to be a lot more intentional about highlighting passages that speak to me. I’ve been terrible about this in the past. It’s been on a few of my lists over our three years that it’s something I wanted to get better about doing. So here I am. Sharing things I’ve loved […]

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December 31, 2014 - 8:01 am

Goodbye to 2014 + End of Year Book Survey | Magan - […] did a post with a few of my favorite ones! Here’s one I particularly […]

November 20, 2014 - 8:39 am

Lisa @ Bookish Broads - I love finding great quotes! And as someone who hasn’t read any of these books, I am especially drawn to them now!

November 19, 2014 - 7:44 pm

Alexa S. - Magan, what PHENOMENAL quotables you’ve included in your post today! I’ve actually read every single one of these books, so I know how they fit in the context of each story. But also, they’re all things I personally relate to and think about in real life! In particular, I could focus on the first – about love, and how it changes. I’d like to think it grows, and it’s a choice to grow together or apart in spite of whatever external things come your way! Loved this post, and hope you share more quotables!

November 19, 2014 - 1:49 pm

Asheley (@BookwormAsheley) - These are so fantastic. About that first one, it just gripped me so hard just now because YES love can go away but it can also be restored! How wonderful and scary and exciting and awesome! I love this. So hard. Thanks for sharing it.

November 19, 2014 - 12:26 pm

C.M. Boers - I love taking quotes out of books! Though I haven’t been good at it either. Sometimes I don’t even think about it! Then I stumble upon a commonly highlighted quote when I’m reading and think “yes!” Great idea to lay them all out!

November 19, 2014 - 11:39 am

Jessica - I love these quotes! I totally agree that To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before has so many great quotes. I don’t highlight passages but I love placing mini stickies on the page where the quote I like is.

I love A Great and Terrible Beauty and there’s just so many great quotes in the book such as, “We are all unkind from time to time. We all do things we desperately wish we could undo. Those regrets just become part of who we are, along with everything else. To spend time trying to change that, well, it’s like chasing clouds.”.

November 19, 2014 - 10:42 am

Brianna - I love highlighting passages in books. I’ve done it a half-dozen times with the book I’m reading now and that’s just in chapter one. It’s not really because the passages speak to me for any particular reason, but because the writing is so gorgeous and I aspire to write like that.

November 19, 2014 - 10:36 am

Lauren at Bookmark Lit - Love all of these quotes!! I’ve read a few of the books and have the others on my TBR, so I guess I’m headed in the right direction :)

November 19, 2014 - 9:38 am

Rebecca - Love all of these and hearing why you loved them, too. You definitely make me want to go read them and discover them myself, on the page. Cool post :)

On a Personal Note: Un-boxing Friendship

Well, hello! It’s been a while since I wrote something just to write. I read a book, Even in Paradise, several weeks ago and there’s a quote that’s been running through my mind. I’ve been trying to find the words to write this post; hopefully I’ve finally figured out what I want to say and don’t […]

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December 31, 2014 - 8:02 am

Goodbye to 2014 + End of Year Book Survey | Magan - […] My post on friendship and how I think it’s important to not lump people into boxes so we can know more about them. […]

November 26, 2014 - 12:25 pm

Alexa S. - Magan, your thoughts on friendship are so refreshing! I really love the concept of unboxing, though I’m definitely guilty of grouping my friends into different groups, particularly during my younger years. I was always conscious of the differences between these groups, and I even noticed that I acted differently around, solely dependent on whichever group I happened to be hanging out with. These days, now that I’m older, I’m actually much more open to having my friends from all aspects of my life hanging out with each other – I just want everyone to get along, to have the chance to potentially embrace and reveal other parts of their personalities. People are very complex and have a whole lot of different nuances, and I really think that allowing them to be comfortable enough to reveal EVERYTHING is key to any friendship having a wonderful, solid foundation. Thanks for sharing, M, and inspiring me to reflect on friendship too.

November 8, 2014 - 10:44 pm

Sky - Yes, absolutely! I find that I have several individual “best” friends that are from different facets of my life – two I met in Panama, one I met in school, and one I met at work. They all exist in separate areas of my life and our friendships are often based around how/where/what we have in common. They knew of each other but don’t know each other – I’ve contemplated getting everyone together but it seems odd to combine groups.

November 2, 2014 - 1:05 am

Weekly Recap| Oct 26 – Nov 1, 2014 | Oh, the Books! - […] Magan’s unboxing friendship. […]

November 2, 2014 - 12:03 am

October 2014 Rewind - […] On A Personal Note: Unboxing Friendships – This post about friendship from Magan at Rather Be Reading really resonated with […]

October 30, 2014 - 2:58 pm

Brooke - Great post Magan! I love the adorable pictures too.
I think it’s only natural to “collect” various types of friends throughout your life- the people who knew you in college, the people who you met through theater and music, and the people who have grown with you professionally or as a mommy… I found at my wedding when I mixed all of these types of friends together at one table, they got along swimmingly. We tend to look for common elements in our friends, whether we realize it and can put our finger on it or not.:)

October 29, 2014 - 4:58 pm

Jessica - I LOVE this post! I definitely understand what you mean about having groups of friends and fearing that they might not get along with each other. I have different friends and I always feel like they might not get along with each other if I invited them to the same thing. Sometimes, they don’t really get along but they make do and that’s okay.

But I’ve also met a lot of friends through other friends and it was only possible through “un-boxing” friendship groups. I definitely have to be more cognizant about not grouping my friendships since it’s easy to fall into routine with friends and just do the same-old. I’m really happy to have friends from so many diverse areas of life because we all bring something different to the table.

October 29, 2014 - 2:43 pm

Lauren at Bookmark Lit - I love this post! I struggle with this a lot, or I used to in the past. I had multiple, distinct groups of friends in high school – and a boyfriend that I forced to fit into every group. It was always interesting when I had to pull everyone together for a birthday gathering..and everyone always had fun! I spent SO much time when I was home from college on breaks flying to different friend dates: breakfast with one person, lunch with another, afternoon shopping with another, dinner with someone else, and nighttime with a last person. Seriously, it was too intense to keep up with! I never wanted to condense the groups because I didn’t want people to feel like I was smushing them together because I didn’t have time for them singularly. I think that was my biggest issue. I still kind of struggle with this at times. You live and you learn! Your real friends will understand. Jumping between different people throughout the day is what ends up hurting them more because it seems like you have to schedule or squeeze them into time slots. Sorry for the rambling!

October 29, 2014 - 1:09 pm

Wendy @ Book Scents - This is so interesting bc I totally tend yo group friends together. I have a lot of very different friends and bc of that I often think it’d be so weird to have them together. Some of that is distance so bc of location they never are together. But anyway, at my wedding this past summer I had all these different groups and I was surprised when they mingled and were chatting with each other. It’s not like they’ll be bffs but it def made me see that my friends don’t just have to be ONE thing. Great post!!

October 29, 2014 - 12:05 pm

Rebecca @ Reading Wishes - ETA is (also) brilliant and this post could basically be inspiration for a YA book about friendships and other good stuff.

October 29, 2014 - 11:10 am

ashley - Friendships are always hard for me because my brain often convinces me that I’m an annoying asshole and people are just hanging around with me because they have no choice and they are humoring me. I’m not saying this is true, but this is how my brain works. That being said, I do have a core group of people in my life who get me and work with me when my brain is like HAHA SUCKER. I don’t really put my friends in a box mostly because they all seem to get each other and mesh well together? If anything I came into the group late and they boxed me! My online friends I tend to box more, not because they’re online friends but because of how I met them. I’m not sure this comment makes any sense, but friendships are complex, so my comment probably is, too.

October 29, 2014 - 10:44 am

Rebecca - Such a beautiful, relatable, thoughtful post and that is a great quote – thanks for sharing it with us. For some reason, it’s easy to group friends: book friends, friends from your childhood, etc and I think a lot people do it. If the situation arises in the future for different friends to meet, I’m going to let it. Not only that, I’m gong to embrace :)

October 29, 2014 - 10:01 am

Meg - I’m definitely guilty of categorizing my friendships and not allowing them to grow — something I’ve considered quite often and am working on changing! I’ve even thrown separate holiday get-togethers because I was worried folks wouldn’t “mesh,” but hey: we’re all adults! I should have allowed others to meet and make those decisions for themselves, but I was stressed and being silly. I won’t do that again!

My in-person friendships tend to evolve and change pretty quickly and, unfortunately, I don’t have a close circle of folks I can call at a moment’s notice… but I appreciate the people I do have in my life, and I’m trying to find more balance by nurturing those relationships a bit more. It can feel tough because we’re all in “different places,” but that’s just my own projections again. Whether we’re married or single, with children or not, we’re people. We’re friends. We figure it out.

Magan: We’re Not Talking About Books Q&A

Estelle and I are swapping questions and getting into the nitty gritty details… Welcome to our “We’re Not Talking About Books Q&A.” Today I’m answering Estelle’s questions and soon she’ll be answering mine. I haven’t even read her questions yet. I’m just copying and pasting them and writing whatever first comes to mind. Are you […]

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January 7, 2014 - 12:01 am

Top Ten Tuesday: Let's Talk 2014 Resolutions, Magan - […] guys… I’m worn out. And no, that’s not just the pregnancy talking. I mentioned in my Q&A with Estelle that I’d like to be more welcoming and have people over more often. Maybe these two concepts […]

December 29, 2013 - 10:50 am

Bookworm1858 - Such a fun idea to share more of the personality behind the blog. I’m super late obviously but I look forward to checking out Estelle’s shortly.

December 26, 2013 - 9:00 am

Estelle: We're Not Talking About Books Q&A, Estelle - […] Good morning, friends!  Today I’m answering some questions that Magan sent me a few days ago. I hope you’ve enjoyed this series so far! It’s been so fun to reflect on the past year together and share it with you. (If you misses Magan’s Q&A, here it is!) […]

December 22, 2013 - 1:55 am

Liz - I love reading this interview! Magan, I feel so lucky to have gotten to see how you and your family have changed in 2013. I’m really excited for you to have your baby. And I like how you talk about wanting to let people in more! That’s something I’ve found myself mulling over a great deal this year.

On a lighter note, I also recently got Naked 3 and it’s been a great purchase.

I’m looking forward to seeing what 2014 brings for you!

December 20, 2013 - 7:48 pm

Alexa Y. - I loved reading your answers to E’s questions, M! It’s such a beautiful way to get to know you a little better, and to see how 2013 has changed and shaped you. Even with all your ups and downs, I also know that it’s been a crazy wonderful year for you. I’m honored to know you and be your friend, just because you’re a wonderful person with a genuinely good, caring heart and it shows so clearly how much you value family, friends and life in this post. Love it and love YOU!

December 19, 2013 - 8:58 pm

Melissa @ Writer Grrl Reads - Omigoodness, there are no words for how much I loved reading this! Magan, you made me tear up a few times, especially at the end with baby girl kissing the snowman — too freakin’ cute!

December 19, 2013 - 7:54 pm

Christina - I love the Naked 3 too!

December 19, 2013 - 11:53 am

Lisa Schensted - I would like to second Magan growing into motherhood as an incredible thing to witness and I absolutely adored every moment of it (and will continue to do so).

I love you both to the moon and back!


December 18, 2013 - 9:55 pm

Ellie - I just splurged on the Naked 3 Palette too! So in love with it.

December 18, 2013 - 3:16 pm

Meg - Loved reading this! You ladies are awesome. :) And I love that Florida shot! We don’t have our travel plans locked down for next year, either, but I definitely need to plan a vacation somewhere . . . . this year was consumed by wedding chaos, but all bets are off in 2014!

December 18, 2013 - 3:06 pm

Tiff @ Mostly YA Lit - Love this series. GREAT read – you both seem like such awesome people, it’s wonderful to get to know you better.

Magan, I am the worst about letting people into my home. My husband is great at it and unashamed of our sometimes untidy place, but I feel like the worst hostess when my place looks like crap, so I know what you’re feeling. I’m going to try to be better at it next year, too, because you’re right, bringing a sense of community into your home is important.

On a lighter note, I feel the same sad way about Zefron. Rehab for coke? Yikes. And we definitely need better movies from him…”That Awkward Moment”? REALLY? =p

December 18, 2013 - 9:58 am

alice-jane - I love the new Q&A series that you’re doing! It’s so nice to get to know bloggers not only through what books they like but also through personal posts like this! The iPhone boat picture is gorgeous, too.

All the memories that you’ve shared are so precious and I hope you have a great 2014 as well! :)

December 18, 2013 - 9:45 am

Quinn @ Quinn's Book Nook - Wow, Magan, it seems like you’ve had a very busy, but good, year. As for the UD Naked 3 Palette – I just got that as well. It’s so pretty, and I think my favorite of all the Naked Palettes. So good to talk to another makeup addict.

December 18, 2013 - 9:28 am

Ginger @ GReads! - First of all, I LOVE this Q&A thing y’all got started. It’s nice to see personal posts on book blogs (something I am trying to do more of too).

Magan, I love that picture from Florida. I remember admiring your trip while y’all were there through your Instagram pics & thinking, wow! I need to visit this place. Also, that last question about the ornament and your grandmother: PRECIOUS. That’s definitely a keepsake to hold in your heart forever. I agree with Estelle that you’ve definitely evolved into this beautiful, selfless person. You inspire me, constantly.

PS – LOVE that tidbit about the groomsmen asking if your assistant was single, hehe.