We’re Celebrating Our Friendiversary!

It’s true that you never know where you are going to meet the love of your life. Or in this case, one of your best friends. Three years ago, this week Magan was on her way to “work” at a wedding in Austin and Estelle was putting on a mint green dress to watch one of her best friends walk down the aisle. It sounds like the beginning of a strange love story, doesn’t it? So unsuspected that a comment about books would lead to many Twitter chats, Facebook friendship, and the nugget of an idea to start what would become Rather Be Reading.

Magan and Estelle in Austin 2013

Having too much fun at Urban Outfitters in 2013.

Over the course of these three years, we’ve helped/coached/cheered each other through some pretty major life moments. We thought it would only be fitting to celebrate our friendiversary by acknowledging and celebrating some of our favorite bookish friendships. (Note to authors: we want more of these!)


Female Friendship in YA

Past Perfect, in general, is full of some of the most honest characters I’ve ever met and this is probably my number one quality in a friend. Because, you know what, it is not easy to say how you feel all the time. So to see it in Fiona and Chelsea, especially when Chelsea is having such trouble getting over a breakup — I think it said a lot about how confident they were in their friendship and how much they trusted each other. They weren’t afraid to hurt each other’s feelings, and knew it wasn’t helpful just to say what the other wanted to hear. These are the pivotal moments where friendships grow stronger. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate being able to be myself around Magan, and knowing that she always has my best interest at heart.

And then there is Maggie and Roux. Their upbringing couldn’t be any more different but they also have so much in common. (Kind of loners at the beginning of this series.) But you know, they totally have each other’s backs. No matter what. Even when things get super hard and don’t make any sense. I especially love how Maggie’s family adopts Roux as one of their own — no questions asked. (I’ve hijacked some Blasig family vacas and they always make me feel so welcome.) I love how much fun they have together despite all the drama, and they just make me smile. (Minus the whole saving the world part, I feel this same way about M. We laugh so much when we are together, and I miss that as soon as our visits end.)


magan and estelle of rather be reading

If you’ve read either of my two book selections, maybe you’re tilting your head to the side wondering why I chose these. Throughout the course of the last year, especially, I’ve really been overwhelmed with love and support by my friends. Estelle specifically. I’ve gone through some of the most emotional and trying times of my life and admittedly this has caused me to withdraw a bit from life to focus on the chaos. What I loved most about Where the Stars Still Shine by Trish Doller was how Kat, Callie’s cousin and self-imposed BFF, pursued Callie. Callie was a very distant girl who didn’t easily make connections because of how disruptive her lifestyle had been with her mother — never laying down roots. But Kat was adamant about getting to know Callie and wanting to be part of her life. Throughout this year, when I was having super tough days and didn’t particularly want to work through my emotions, Estelle has done the same thing for me — she’s been there. She’s been a rock and she’s allowed me to work through all my crazy and helped me sort through what’s going on so I’m not trudging through it alone.

As for my second choice, Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell … how can you NOT love Cath and Reagan’s friendship? I loved their oddball pairing — they’re college roommates not by their own choosing, but the forcefulness of the situation provides the opportunity for these two girls to get to know one another. You could say that essentially this is a lot like Estelle and I. We didn’t know we were going to meet. The situation we were both in that day provided the opportunity and it’s led to a beautiful, lifelong friendship. I’m certain Cath and Reagan would keep in touch forever… don’t you think?


We’d love to hear about home of your favorite friendships in YA. (Female or not.)
And be sure to check out Ellice’s amazing post over at Paper Riot on Top 10 Friendships in Fiction.

Now go hug your best friend! xo

12 thoughts on “We’re Celebrating Our Friendiversary!

  1. Jamie says:

    I still love your “how you met” story! This is why I am PRO talking to strangers about books 😛

    Love the picks I’ve read (Fangirl, Also Known As and WSW) and so agree with the friendships! Gotta read Past Perfect!

    How lucky you are to have each other in life and with this blog! This post made me think fondly about the two best friends in my life from middle school/HS and then HS/college. I’m only close with one of them at this point, and not even bffs really, but I loved thinking about HOW I met them and how important they were to my life and how I grew as a person. It’s harder for me as an adult to find a close friend like that these because everyone is just in such different places in life but I still hope to find my adulthood peanut butter to my jelly. It’s funny when I think about it though how my sister has really become that person since the day she told me she was pregnant with Genevieve.

    ANYWHO now I’m all nostalgic and I apologize for doing it all over your comment box haha. I’m happy that 3 years ago you got your book nerd on as strangers because, if not, you both wouldn’t be in my life…and that would be sad because you guys have definitely had an impact on my life!

  2. Andi says:

    I love this! What a cute story on how you met! Really it is amazing how the littlest things can bring two people together as friends and I love that you two are proof of that.
    Happy Friendiversary!

  3. Christina @ Allodoxophobia says:

    Happy anniversary! I love this post! If Melissa and I wrote one, we’d be celebrating 29 years as friends this coming summer. So important to celebrate friendship 🙂 My favorite group of friends might be The Raven Boys + Blue. They support and antagonize each other in all kinds of interesting ways.

  4. Jen Ellision says:

    Awww, I love this! Incidentally, the beginning of this post reminds me of one of my favorite quotes/female friendships from Code Name Verity: “It’s like being in love, discovering your best friend.”

  5. Leah says:

    I should not have read this while sitting by the window! Anyone driving by will probably think I’m a complete nut for grinning so hard. Your story AND you two are absolutely adorable!

    Although we lost touch over the years, I met my best friend through Harry Potter message boards on AOL back in the day. 🙂 For years we’d chat online and send letters and finally, in 2008, we had the chance to meet in person (at a HP convention obvs). I’m a total believer that a best friend might be right behind you in line at the grocery store or sitting across from you on the bus. Like Jamie, I’m all for chatting up strangers – and, luckily, I get to do that at work!

  6. Alexa S. says:

    You guys! I’m still so very happy that you met, became BFFs and started Rather Be Reading. You guys are such an inspiring pair, the type of friendship I love seeing in books or in real life. The friendships you’ve chosen (I’ve read 3 out of 4!) are brilliant for the reasons you’ve mentioned here — all necessary in real, true friendship. I’m honored to be able to call you both my friends as well, and want to squishy hug you both <3

  7. Lucy says:

    Hooray for friendiversary’s! Yay for bonding over books and starting RBR! I like a good friendship book and you’ve listed some of my favorites in this post. Especially Maggie & Roux, and Cath & Reagan 🙂

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