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Magan: WeVerb12: Prompt 9 (2012 Challenges)


Hi friends! Estelle and I are going to be chiming in this month about WEverb12 every now and then. We hope you’ll stop over at the website and check it out for yourself. A team of bloggers has collected some prompts to help us think about the last year and also look ahead to 2013. We thought this might be a nice way for us to challenge ourselves writing wise and also to share a little more about who we are on the blog.

How were you challenged by a project or goal this year? What did you learn from it?

One of my biggest challenges in my life is balance. I feel like I sign myself up for a lot, make plans with more people than I should (and sometimes fail at being a good wife because I forget to factor in lazy nights at home with my husband), and generally try to make everyone else happy that I leave little time for myself.

We began Rather Be Reading at the end of last year so this was our first full year to work on this project together. I found that one of the hardest things was wanting to work on my actual real-world work because I was so excited about wanting to grow RBR. When I was dealing with a particularly difficult business-related thing (i.e. taxes), I found myself opening a new tab so I could begin my next post or proof something for Estelle instead of doing what I should have been.

instagram photo of hand reflection on laptop screenMy challenge was saying no to blog-related things when I had weddings to work on. My business blogs suffered because I was pouring everything I could into RBR. This is problematic because, well, RBR isn’t a source of income for me. It’s easy for me to want to pour myself into RBR, though, because I love how it brings Estelle and I together. I love the community. I love the friends I’ve made through it. I love absolutely everything about getting to read a book and share my thoughts.

Even though Estelle and I have set up a system where we’re always ahead with our writing, moving forward, I think I need to be a little more scheduled. I need to make sure I’m getting through my work to-do list before I begin working on something for RBR. Being self-employed is hard, y’all. I love that with RBR I always have E by my side, but with my photography businesses, it’s just me. There are a lot of hats to wear, some of which are more favorable than others. In 2013, I just need to make sure I’m focused and both things are balanced.

Something I’ve done to keep me focused is to work outside our home. I allow myself to go to a coffee shop or work from a laptop-friendly restaurant that doesn’t mind me staying for a while. If I take away the distractions at home (my dogs, laundry, TV, etc.), I find that helps free up tons of time. I’ve actually had a few conversations with my dear hubby about the household chores so that he can help pitch in a little more too. I love having a clean home, but I need his help if I want to be able to hang out with friends, blog, and be a businesswoman. (He’s been trying really hard to help out more, even if some things show up in the oddest places because he doesn’t know where they belong.)

My question to you, friends, is whether you struggle with this too. Do you find yourself working on your blogs when you should be doing other things? How do you maintain balance?

December 12, 2012 - 4:59 pm

Alexa Y. - Finding a balance between social life & blogging life & wedding planning is still a bit of an experiment for me. There’s always something going on for all of these things (and sometimes, simultaneously) that one of them usually ends up getting neglected. I love all three too much to give them up though, so I guess I’m just hoping I can find the right mix!

December 11, 2012 - 5:28 am

Hemborgwife - My husband and I have a system where I do the dishes Mon-Thur and he does Fri-Sun but on Monday’s I am always finding dishes in the wrong cupboards or on shelves so high I cannot reach which makes me wonder how he thinks I got them down to use in the first place!

December 10, 2012 - 6:44 pm

Brie @ Eat Books - For me, this is the hardest part about blogging – finding balance. I’m also really good at “wasting” time, and this doesn’t help in the whole balance thing. I’m continually impressed and amazed at bloggers who not only run a consistent (and often daily) blog, but who also have small children! I only have a hubby and fur-baby, but they sure keep me busy! 🙂 Thankfully, hubby is super supportive about the blog and understands it’s important to me, but I still feel guilty if I do blog things in the evenings. I couldn’t imagine also trying to work from home! BUT, I am not very self-motivated in the mornings, so I know for me, working from home would not be ideal 🙂 Unless my work involved lots of coffee drinking and blog reading haha.

December 10, 2012 - 1:09 am

Azara - Definitely! My blog is just for fun rather than a business, but it’s completely addictive and I’m always reading/writing posts when I should be doing something else.

December 9, 2012 - 9:41 pm

Henry Circle - Nail on the head! You are not alone. Between blogging on my two blogs and promoting them and my book, I am spent. That takes up every drop of free time. I have to make sure I schedule in time for parenting,husband stuff, household duties, etc. Then, I have to find time to read so I’ll have something to blog about! I can’t imagine having a career on top of it! But, like you, I love it too much to cease and desist. I’ve promised myself to spend more time in the gym and less on the computer. I’ll just have to get audio books to listen to on the treadmill! Great post!

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