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Retail Therapy & Birthday Browsing

You hear a lot of people talk about turning 30. When my husband had this birthday two years ago, he was a little freaked out and he (the kind guy he is) keeps reminding me of this now. I’m slowly but surely getting to that birthday (about two weeks to go) and I’m not going to deny feeling a little anxious and sweaty about it. Yea, yea, it’s just a number and I have no idea who I am stacking myself up against but I feel a bit behind in the things I want to have accomplished “by now”. But again, wherever I got the this-is-where-I-am-supposed-to-be memo, could never factor in what’s happened to me in almost 30 years either so I can start ignoring that. Right?

Since this is on my mind, I’m going shopping with you guys today. We don’t even have to put on pants or leave our homes! (You heard me.) Here are a few items I’ve been coveting in the last few weeks. What is it about the bitter winter, post-Christmas time that makes me want to shop so much? I have no idea. I’ve been good though and opted to buy myself a coffee a day instead. (Maybe I AM responsible in my old age.) Hope you enjoy this!

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Canvas & Leather A Satchel in Crosswalk Stripe ( Saturday.com | $225 ) Right after Christmas my favorite Kate Spade bag broke. The strap literally fell out of the bag, and since I’ve had it for almost 3 years, it wasn’t worth me trying to fix it. Sigh. I was so depressed because I adored that bag and always got a ton of compliments on it. I’m on the prowl for a new one, and this one popped up recently. I love it and it must scream ESTELLE because Andi sent me a link (“you need this!”) without me even mentioning it to her.

Feathered Sky Earrings ( Spool No. 72 | $22 ) No joke. As soon as I saw these, I put them in the cart but I’m being good. Ever since I cut my hair, long earrings have become my favorite accessory to buy. Aren’t these awesome? I love them so much. (In fact, this whole site could put me into large debt. I adore everything.)

Skeleton Key Bangle in Silver ( Alex & Ani | $28 ) I love that this bracelet stands for. POWER. CHOICE. LIBERATION. I can’t think of any other words I would want to use to describe the year ahead.

Too Faced Flush Blush ( Sephora | $30 ) I’m still buying drugstore blush and, you know, it’s not really THAT great. I’ve been eyeing a set like this for a long time. How cute is this packaging? I think 30 is a good reason to splurge on a set like this one. (Please if you know a good blush brand I am ignoring me, TELL ME in the comments.)

Judy Blume Teen Collection ( B&N | $37 ) I love these brand new covers for Judy’s books and I don’t own all of these (even if I’ve read most of them) = BONUS. Judy has been such an integral part of my childhood, and, as an adult, I still look forward to her new books (we get one this year) and enjoy re-reading all her work.

What calms you before a BIG day? Any inspiration advice for 30? I did love this recent article from the New Yorker: An Ode to 29.

Thanks for shopping with me today! I owe you a coffee;)

January 23, 2015 - 3:46 pm

Alexa S. - I’ve been eyeing this same Saturday satchel, E! It’s so cute, isn’t it? I really, really hope you get it for your birthday ;) Everything else in this post is totally cute too, and I’m particularly fond of those gorgeous earrings!

January 22, 2015 - 10:27 pm

Lindsay @ The Book Baby - I swear by retail therapy! My favorite blushes are from Mac and Nars, but a Milani “Luminoso” is a good drugstore one!

January 19, 2015 - 12:12 am

Shannon @ It Starts At Midnight - I am with Brianna- 30 wasn’t as hard as I thought it’d be, but 31 and 32 have been HARD. I loved the quote in the article you shared by Alice Munro: “Writer Alice Munro once described your early 30s as “an age at which it is sometimes hard to admit that what you are living is your life.””. It is really true. I think if you are in a good place now, you’ll probably have an easy transition to 30. I wasn’t, and I am not, and I think that is when things get dicey.

Also, I LOVE the bag ;) Happy early birthday, I hope you have an absolutely lovely day, and new decade!

January 18, 2015 - 7:07 pm

tabithasbookblog - That purse is great!! I’ve recently discovered Kate Spade (I don’t know why I’ve been so behind), and i’m obsessed. I just bought a card holder wallet. I don’t know the exact term, but I’m in love with it. and before a big day I browse stores. Whenever I’m in a mood or have something to think about I browse. It’s been too cold to go for walks, so browsing has been my go to lately.

January 18, 2015 - 4:46 pm

elena - that purse is cuuuuute!!! i don’t really remember what yr old kate spade looked like though bc awful memory. I WANT TO SEE.

January 18, 2015 - 1:20 pm

Brianna - 30 was easy. It’s the subsequent years that have been more difficult. I’ll be 33 this year and I can’t handle it. Everything in my life is in limbo and I have all the anxiety.

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Love on the Lifts by Jill Santopolo • Magan’s Mini Review

Love on the Lifts by Jill Santopolo

Love on the Lifts by Jill Santopolo [twitter | website]
Publication Date: January 22, 2015
Publisher: Speak
Pages: 208
Target Audience: Young Adult
Keywords: create your own story, ski resort, recovering from a breakup
Format Read: ARC from Publisher (Thank you!)

Summary: In this create-your-own-story, you’ve just broken up with your boyfriend and have traveled to a ski resort where your sister encourages you to kiss another boy to quickly get over your ex.


Love on the Lifts is a fun, quick, interactive read because you decide what happens next for the main character. Yep, it’s a create-your-own-story book! (How did I miss out on these when I was in middle and high school? This is my first to have ever read!) The story begins with a girl who has just broken up with her cheating boyfriend. She’s arriving at a ski resort with her parents and older sister. Her sister thinks that the best way to get over one guy is to kiss another, and she encourages the hesitant, heart-broken MC to have fun, meet boys, and kiss one of them.

I decided when I began Love on the Lifts that I wouldn’t read every scenario; since this was my first go at this type of story, I wanted to see how I worked my way through it. Apparently, I chose the shortest route possible. I so, so quickly went from cover to cover. (And I admit I made decisions that I thought would really complicate my ability to meet a kissable boy!) Skimming through the alternate endings was a lot of fun too. I can’t begin to count how many times have I finished a book and really wished the main character had ended up with someone different; at least in this situation, it was all in my control.

If you’re looking for something fun to break up your reading pattern, give Love on the Lifts a try. It was extremely helpful to have something light-hearted sitting on my bookshelves after finishing the topsy turvy Twisted Fate.

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January 23, 2015 - 3:49 pm

Alexa S. - I used to be obsessed with Choose Your Own Adventure novels as a kid! I especially liked the ones with dramatic, life-changing scenarios because I wanted to see if I could survive to the end. I’ll admit that I wouldn’t know how it’d work for a love story, but Love on the Lifts sounds cute in theory!

January 18, 2015 - 5:27 pm

Bruna - This sounds so fun! I used to read RPG books when I was a kid (you had to roll the dice to see which way to go and all that) and all other types of interactive books. But I haven’t see one in a while. Think I might try this one out!

January 17, 2015 - 3:51 pm

Hannah @ Broc's Bookcase - I’ve never read a book like this before, sounds like so much fun! I don’t think I would be able to stop myself from reading every single scenario though, I’m really nosey like that! :)

January 17, 2015 - 2:59 pm

Brianna - These kinds of books are so fun. You should read the Choose Your Own Adventure Books – they were a staple in my childhood reading diet.

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Little Kids: Winter Favorites

Welcome to our first edition of LITTLE KIDS! Estelle’s been hanging out in the adult aisles for quite a while now and I’ve been squatting on much-too-small stools reading books to Everett and H. Over the last two years, I’ve developed some strong attachments to kids books that I really want to share with you guys. Whether or not you’re looking for yourself, a friend, or if you’re a librarian/mom/kids book lover and have something amazing to share, I really hope you’ll join in on the conversation.

This month we’re starting with winter favorites. It doesn’t really snow much in Texas, but that doesn’t mean we’re not mesmerized by it. I love a good wintery, cold day, snuggling up under blankets, drinking hot chocolate, and reading. I hope that Everett will learn to love it too. I also want to teach her about new things, even if it’s not something she’ll get to experience right now.

little kids book recommendations for winter

Snowflake graphic created by The Graphics Fairy.

The Big SnowThe Snowy Day • Owl Moon • White Snow Bright Snow
Snow • Over and Under • When Winter Comes • Recommend a Book to Us…

A few of these titles (actually, the whole top row, and the bottom-left book) we personally own and have read this year. Owl Moon is probably my favorite of these because it’s about a father and son’s journey into a snowy night in search of spotting an owl. One thing to note is that several of these are award winners. I was very curious about them and why they might have won awards. Snow, in particular, is written a little differently. Here’s a little excerpt:

“It’s snowing,” said boy with dog.
“It’s only a snowflake,” said grandfather with beard.

Over and Under and When Winter Comes, are ones that have caught my eye and I’d like to add to our collection, but haven’t read quite yet. Maybe Everett and I will be adventuring to our local library to check them out soon! My hope is to build our little home library so that as the seasons change, we can cycle through books and what we’re “teaching” Everett.

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Do you have any favorite childhood books? I would love recommendations!

January 23, 2015 - 3:52 pm

Alexa S. - This feature is seriously so dang cute! As you know, I’m VERY supportive of getting E & H into reading (hence all the books I’ve gifted them so far). Love that you’ve chosen to let them read winter-themed ones this season!

January 20, 2015 - 9:05 am

Leah - loveloveloveLOVE this!! I’ve been amassing a library of kids’ books (and receiving LOTS of nervous looks for Matt in the process!). Really though, storybooks are the best and between my nieces and any future Leah Jrs, I’m going to make sure I have plenty of stories on-hand!

I adore Over and Under! Keeping with the wintery theme, you seriously cannot go wrong with Jan Brett’s The Mitten!

January 18, 2015 - 5:06 pm

Melissa @ Writer Grrl Reads - This is such a sweet idea, and I love that your blog will now be featuring titles from all ends of the reading age spectrum! Marko loves reading his favourites over and over (and OVER AND OVER!) again, but I’m always on the lookout for NEW favourite titles to memorize (seriously, I could recite Goodnight Moon forwards and backwards — ha ha!) so I’m lovin’ this feature!

January 17, 2015 - 11:31 am

Jamie - Bookmarking this! Love finding new books to share with Genevieve and Adela plus with the kids I nanny!

January 16, 2015 - 4:33 pm

ashley - I am SO glad to see “The Snowy Day” one of my favorites on this list!

January 16, 2015 - 10:35 am

Brianna - The Polar Express for a winter book recommendation. For non-winter books, I really like anything David Weisner has written, but in particular Sector 7. It’s a wordless book, which makes it fun for kids and adults because you can make up a story as you go.

January 16, 2015 - 8:40 am

Lisa @ Bookish Broads - I love discovering new kids books to read with Lucy! Thanks for the new feature!

We really like to read Merry Christmas, Stinkyface (and the rest of the Stinkyface series) when it’s snowy! The Quiet Book also has some cute snow moments in it. :)

January 16, 2015 - 6:45 am

Sandy - Animals in Winter by Henrietta Bancroft

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I Was Here by Gayle Forman | Estelle Reviews

I Was Here by Gayle FormanI Was Here by Gayle Forman ( web | twitter )
Published January 27, 2015 by Penguin/Viking Books
Target audience: Young adult
Keywords: post-high school, secrets, suicide, mystery, class
Format read: ARC borrowed from Alex. (Thanks!)

Summary: Cody is shocked to receive an email from her best friend, Meg, telling her that she has committed suicide. The Meg she has loved forever would never do something like this. Filled with grief she doesn’t know what to do with, Cody sets forth to get to the bottom of Meg’s mysterious death and stumbles upon some hard truths.

What do you say about a book that is beautifully, honestly written and addictive but doesn’t hit the mark?

I’m not sure but I’m going to try.

I’m a huge fan of Gayle Forman’s writing. Her Just One Day and Just One Year are two of the best books I’ve ever read in my almost 30 years. For me, those books stand out of her canon because they are all about balance. Yes, they are driven by attraction and maybe love but it’s also about growing pains, discovering yourself, and your relationships with the many people around you from your parents to your best friend to the stranger you let into your life. If I tried to pinpoint why I Was Here doesn’t rank as high for me as these two, I could say it was about the balance.

Cody is mystified when she receives an email from her best friend the day after she commits suicide. How could someone as vivacious as Meg end her life? And more importantly, how could she even be thinking about this precisely planned suicide without saying anything to Cody? Forman quickly delves us into the complex feelings associated with a death like this one. There is the despair and disbelief but there is also the selfish side. How could they leave me?

At first, Cody is prepared to go to Meg’s apartment and pack up her things (as a favor to the Garcia’s, who have always been a family to Cody) and try to move on. But something is nagging Cody. Meg’s note was a little strange, even her little brother notices. Did someone force Meg to do this? Suddenly, Cody finds herself jumping into this mystery by reading Meg’s emails, meeting her friends in Seattle (Alice, Robert, and Harry were GREAT), and trying to figure out what was going on in her head. It’s difficult to realize your best friend has qualities and tendencies you never knew about but an entire new life in a new city? It seems the girls are being pulled even farther apart as Cody throws herself down this rabbit hole.

The rabbit hole leads her to Ben, a boy that was friends with Meg. Cody is hardwired to be independent, in a way that means brushing off help from others all the time. But Ben really knew Meg, even if they weren’t on the best terms in the end, and Cody can’t help but let him take part in whatever she is trying to do. She seems to be taken with him, and he seems to be surprised by her but there is so much fucked up complication here, at times I didn’t know what to think. This is one of the parts of the book where I needed more. I was so wrapped up in Cody’s detective skills that the chemistry between these two was a little rushed and lukewarm especially because Ben felt like a caricature of Forman’s past male characters and not his own person.

I Was Here is a tough story for many reasons but one of them is that readers only meet Meg in flashbacks. Forman always does this amazing job of presenting these tiny nuances in human relationships that so many other authors pass over, and it helps us to better understand these characters but, at times, it was hard to really feel the connection between Cody and Meg. Maybe this is because Cody was struggling with it too. She hadn’t imagined she would be separated from Meg when they graduated high school but plans changed and that distances was, in fact, inevitable. The opportunity of getting over those weird transition conflicts was cut short, and, perhaps, that is the most heartbreaking part of all.

All in all, this book presented the darker, edgier side of Forman that I love. All of her characters have this inner badass and act as imperfect humans do — a plus. But another 100 pages and a departure from a few overused young adult troupes would have made this a whole other ballgame.

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January 23, 2015 - 3:57 pm

Alexa S. - I’m really curious to see how I’m going to feel about I Was Here. I want to love it (because it’s Gayle), but I’m also not sure I will based on what I’ve been seeing in many reviews. I really do think I’ll enjoy this one for what it is, but I don’t know how I’ll feel about it in comparison with the Just One Day/Just One Year duo or even Where She Went. We’ll have to wait and see!

January 21, 2015 - 1:02 am

Discussion: On Changing Ratings - […] — so after mentioning this on Twitter, Estelle happened to comment and ask for my thoughts on her review of I Was Here by Gayle Forman, which was both related and unrelated all at the same time. She thought our opinions differed a […]

January 19, 2015 - 10:43 am

Bruna - I’ve been wanting to read this one, because I loved If I Stay and Where She Went, but it has been getting a lot of mixed reviews. Most people seem to rate it around average. I still want to read it, but I think I’ll go with the Just One Day duology for my next Gayle Forman read.

January 18, 2015 - 8:26 pm

Alexa - Aw that is too bad that this one wasn’t better. I really loved If I Stay by her and want to read more of her books. Although it does sound like she explores darker things so I hope I like this one.
Thanks for the great review!

January 16, 2015 - 6:05 am

Kim - Hmm, now I don’t know if I want to read this or not. I’ve been hearing mixed reviews, and I’m kind of scared to dive into it. I hated Just One Day, but I loved If I Stay, so there’s that too.
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January 15, 2015 - 9:53 pm

Hazel @ Stay Bookish - I could totally understand were you’re coming from here, Estelle. Although I quite liked this a little more than you did, it’s not a Forman favourite either unlike her Just One Day series. I seriously was skeptical about the too quick connection between Ben and Cody at first but that ending totally won me over. And I think, for most part, I was just really able to appreciate the beauty and honesty in Gayle’s words and the story that I couldn’t help but really like the book. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this one!

January 15, 2015 - 3:59 pm

Brittany @ The Book Addict's Guide - You know… I know you told me that we disagreed a bit but the more I think about this book, looking back I don’t get those FEELS that I did with her other books. I was falling head over heels for Adam in Where She Went — like ASTRONOMICAL LOVE and I totally connected with Allyson in Just One Day… But I really DIDN’T connect with Meg or Cody or Ben. I WANTED to and I tried to and I tried to blame it on the fact that this was a bit more plot-heavy than character-driven, but it still comes down to the fact that the overwhelming love and/or emotion really wasn’t there for me.
I loved how the romance ended but I also wanted to spend so much more time there.

January 15, 2015 - 11:59 am

Hannah @ So Obsessed With - I totally agree on struggling to feel the connection between Cody and Meg! At times, I felt like Cody cared more about WHY Meg committed suicide than she did about Meg herself. It felt a bit odd to me that Cody felt so shocked that there was so much she didn’t know about Meg because it seemed pretty obvious to me that there was clearly some distance / cooling off in their relationship. I think what I also struggled with is that there were things that happen in the book that made me not want to give this to a teenager, if that makes sense? I felt this shift from reader to almost like concerned parent. It was strange! I like the idea of Forman writing about a darker topic, but this just didn’t work for me either. Maybe it relied a bit too much on tropes and didn’t develop certain aspects enough? I’m not totally sure, but it was a frustrating read for me overall.

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Beneath Beautiful by Allison Rushby • Magan Reviews

Beneath Beautiful by Allison Rushby

Beneath Beautiful by Allison Rushby [ twitter | website ]
Previously Reviewed by This Author: Shooting Stars
Publication Date: November 1, 2014
Publisher: Self-Published
Pages: 211
Target Audience: New Adult
Keywords: modern art, self-discovery, artist’s muse, NYC, Paris
Format Read: ARC from the Author (Thank you!)

Summary: Cassie agrees to sit for modern artist, Cameron, so that he may study her and create a sculpture inspired by her. Cameron is known for overstepping boundaries, taking things too far, and making people feel slightly uncomfortable with his nudist art. Though she’s unsure why, Cassie agrees, but lives a life of secrecy as she stumbles into this self-discovery opportunity.

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Approached in the middle of a Parisian cemetery where she sits reading, Cassie is ripped from her quiet time by a handsome stranger. As they wander around together, Cassie vaguely recognizes him but has difficulty recalling his name. When it dawns on her that he’s a famous nudist artist, Cameron, she flees the cemetery.

Cameron seeks her out by discovering her favorite cafe; he proposes that Cassie become his muse so that he can create a sculpture of her. Though Cassie is taken aback by his stalker-like tactics, she’s intrigued by the idea. What did Cameron see in her that he would want to capture? After some time contemplating his offer and discussing it with her sister (because there could be severe repercussions depending on what Cameron decided to sculpt since her father was in a political position), Cassie agrees to accept Cameron’s offer. He asks her to show him who she is so he can encapsulate this in his sculpture; all Cassie’s expenses will be covered by him as he does his research.

They journey to her family’s summer-house, then they’re quickly whisked away to New York. Cassie’s days become filled with stillness and being analyzed from head to toe in Cameron’s studio. She’s filled with confusion as she thought the process wouldn’t be so sluggish. Cassie’s unable to disclose her reason for being in New York for fear of this ruining her father’s reputation. She develops an attraction to Cameron that she doesn’t feel she can act upon, and is threatened by his ex-girlfriend’s presence and interference in his life. To distance herself from her “work,” she begins seeing a nice acquaintance, Jason.

Perhaps this is where Cassie’s whole journey began to disinterest me as a reader. She becomes so wrapped up in the secrecy, in being perfect for Cameron, and lying to Jason. The original concept of showing Cameron who she was really transformed into something else entirely. I was so intrigued by the trip to her parent’s summer house, but things got a little stale as Cameron had deadlines to make and Cassie began to juggle lies that eventually spun out of control.

I really, really did enjoy the self-discovery aspect Cassie went through — having to strip away all her walls to do what she felt was best for herself and to stand up to a father who maybe had too much influence in her life — but wish that a few situations had been a bit more fleshed out and less chaotic. (And ideally, that they would have continued to travel a bit more before Cassie burrowed her head in the sand and became so introspective.) Overall, Beneath Beautiful was a welcome change because I haven’t read a ton of New Adult books; there were some definite highlights, a nice dose of sexy tension, and it’s such a steal for $2.99 from Amazon.

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January 23, 2015 - 4:07 pm

Alexa S. - I love the initial concept of Beneath Beautiful. The idea of finding out who she is and overcoming personal boundaries/limits as she identifies herself – a great plot for a main character. I’m not overly fond of the fact that it dissolves into romance though.

January 14, 2015 - 6:26 pm

Brianna - I snagged this from NetGalley a while back and I think it’s still on my Kindle. Maybe I’ll give it a go.

January 14, 2015 - 4:34 pm

Betty - Hmmmm….. this sounds interesting…. definitely different from the usual NA theme! I like the art angle! :)

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Real Life Friendship & Real Life Diversity | Dive Into Diversity

Dive Into Diversity Reading ChallengeI’ve had two of my best friends in my life since we were in Mrs. Grader’s kindergarten class — 25 years ago this year. Over the years, we were never consistantly inseparable (it’s difficult when you all go to different colleges and move to new cities) but for whatever cosmic reason, we take on the ebbs and flows of friendship in the best way we can. We may not have a lot of time together with no chorus to go to after school or dances to attend but we make the most of the free time we scrounge up.

It’s our differences that inspired me to write this post today. After reading at least 150 books a year in the last 3 years, I am confident when I say there are very rare fictional circumstances that mirror the town we lived in and the schools we attended. Sure, we all had two parents, one sibling, and grew up in the same town but I’m half Polish and half Spanish, Jen is Polish, and Nisha is Indian. Our high school prided itself on this diversity. It was a life lesson. It was a proposed subject for college essays. How did our high school environment prepare us for the future? We were lucky enough to be surrounded by different cultures and backgrounds, and not only that, we celebrated them with organized groups, presentations, and acceptance.

Estelle Friendship Dive Into Diversity

So I roped Nisha and Jen into answering some questions about our high school experience and our differences. They are such great sports, seriously. Here goes:

Looking back 10 YEARS (ahh), do you believe our high school was really a diverse environment and how has it helped you beyond that?

Nisha: I think as we got older, the schools did become more diverse. It was nice to be a part of this little melting pot. When I was younger, I didn’t realize it was okay to be different. The older I got and the more I saw, I realized that I didn’t have to be like everyone else. My family and culture was different and it worked. It helped prepare me for college. My little melting pot was nothing compared to that. Having experienced it earlier, it wasn’t as shocking or intimidating. It allowed me to just enjoy the experience and take it all in.

Jen: I def think our school was diverse. Our student body had the typical cheerleader types as well as academics including African American and a Latina. We had clubs for any type of group. I remember once going to Asian Studies Club with another friend. Diversity opens you up to the real world. Not everyone is going to look like you or have the same background and having experience with different people allows you be open to different views, open minded and more understanding of others. Less irrational fear and more acceptance.

Is there any situation you remember from grade school where you felt left out or the opposite, loud and proud, about your culture and sharing it with others?

Nisha: When you’re younger being any kind of different automatically makes you feel left out. It cannot be helped. All you want is acceptance at a young age. Grade school wasn’t as diverse so my idea of ‘normal’ was what I saw on TV. Shows like Full House and Step by Step were my normal. However, I didn’t look like them, my family didn’t do the same things as theirs and we didn’t even eat similar foods. When you tell someone you had rotli, shaak, dal bhaat for dinner and they look at you like you have three heads, you feel a bit intimidated. Unfortunately, this translated into being ashamed of my culture when I was younger.

Jen: I never felt left out. Once I wore my polish national outfit for Halloween at school and got a lot of compliments on it. Always thought it was cool that my parents grew up in another country. (Didn’t we do a project once on our cultural backgrounds? I seem to remember laminating placemats that had something to do with Poland. ha.)

I don’t see a lot of friendships like us in media (books, TV, etc.) Am I wrong? Are there any I’m missing? Why do you think there’s a lack of diverse friendships in this place?

Nisha: I don’t think you’re wrong which is unfortunate. I think it’s hard to find these kinds of relationships because people haven’t experienced it. It’s hard to write about something you don’t know or have dealt with. People generally stick to what they know when it comes to befriending people. They don’t allow themselves to go out and explore the options.

Jen: It seems to be more obvious with male relationships. Thinking of The Big Bang Theory that has an Indian and Jewish guy in the same mix. New Girl is pretty diverse. Jess and Ceecee are white girl and Indian girl and the guys include a Jewish guy and two African Americans. I guess Glee tries to be diverse but it always seems like a struggle to teach something before it turns to an actual friendship.

We Scream Ice Scream Rather Be Reading BlogSo what can we take from this? Not to pat any of us on the back, but we are all pretty open-minded people. We’ve all been interested in each other’s lives from the mundane to the most personal. We recognize people as people. Then I asked Nisha if she could remember any recent books with diverse characters in them? She was tired, so I’ll give her a break, but not one came to mind.

I guess it’s time that shocks me the most. In third grade, our teacher was very enthusiastic and focused on having her students understand each other. We hosted an international fair every year, city-wide, and we planned many events in school during the year. From a very early age, we were taught to be curious and accepting. That was almost 20 years ago, and still, I don’t see enough of these environments or relationships in the books I’m reading.

That being said, I can recommend three books that reflected my high school experience truthfully so far. Fingers crossed this list expands as the years go on.

The Boyfriend App by Katie Sise | How to Save a Life by Sara Zarr | Just One Year by Gayle Forman

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Now it’s your turn! Are your friendships well-represented in what you are reading? What would you like to see?

Be sure to check out Rebecca’s first post for DID — Taking the Good with the Bad!

It’s the first official month of Dive Into Diversity so don’t forget to check in with you diverse posts below. Rebecca, Magan, and I cannot wait to read them and check out your blogs! If you haven’t had a chance to join the DID reading challenge, feel free to visit the intro post and use #DiversityDive on Twitter & Instagram!

January 23, 2015 - 4:13 pm

Alexa S. - I loved reading this post, E! And your friends are totally good sports. It’s great to see that, for all of you, you easily embrace PEOPLE (as opposed to limiting yourselves because they’re “different”). Even though when I was in high school, I was mostly surrounded by fellow Filipinos, I’d like to think we were encouraged to be open-minded with all the different cultural projects (nationwide and worldwide) that we were givn to do. YAY FOR DIVERSITY!

January 21, 2015 - 12:00 am

Real Life Diversity (Or a Lack Thereof) | The Reading Shelf - […] This post was written for the first month of the Dive Into Diversity challenge – check out Estelle’s own post and other links! […]

January 13, 2015 - 8:11 pm

Brianna - I’m Jewish, but I don’t think my friendships are so diverse now that I’m an adult. My two closest friends are also Jewish and we have similar backgrounds. I tend to gravitate toward other Jewish people and I’m very strong in my faith. I do think we need more books with diverse characters, though, because the generation of kids growing up now probably don’t have friendships like you have. I know my former camp kids certainly don’t. They go to private Jewish schools and Jewish summer camp. That’s their bubble.

January 13, 2015 - 7:50 pm

Cassie (Happy Book Lovers) - You are wonderful :) I loved this post so much, and I love the focus on friendship. I grew up in the Midwest, and there was not a ton of diversity in my schools (any of them) at all. In fact, it was a big deal when a few black students showed up in our high school. But everyone was so friendly and embracing. It was like all the kids finally were so excited to accept the diversity, and our area just hadn’t seen it yet. My brother became good friends with one of the kids his age, and to this day still goes to visit him even though they go to different colleges. I think that’s the cool thing about young people and kids, too. They’re genuine, and they don’t care about backgrounds or social status or anything like that. They just have friendships. I’m so excited to be in a city with so many different people now! I’m loving it!

January 13, 2015 - 11:23 am

Nisha - I love it! You did such a great job! :)

January 13, 2015 - 8:29 am

Rebecca @ Reading Wishes - Also, I forget to mention in my tiredness: I love that you interviewed your friends and we got the hear from them! So great.

January 13, 2015 - 8:28 am

Rebecca @ Reading Wishes - I LOVE this post. I’m half Portuguese and my childhood friend is half Russian/half Italian and looking back at all the books I’ve read, I can’t remember seeing a friendship like ours represented. Until you mentioned it though, I didn’t notice the hole there was. It’s like, you become accustomed to it? I hope your list grows, too!

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