Magan: WeVerb12: Prompt 9 (2012 Challenges)


Hi friends! Estelle and I are going to be chiming in this month about WEverb12 every now and then. We hope you’ll stop over at the website and check it out for yourself. A team of bloggers has collected some prompts to help us think about the last year and also look ahead to 2013. We thought this might be a nice way for us to challenge ourselves writing wise and also to share a little more about who we are on the blog.

How were you challenged by a project or goal this year? What did you learn from it?

One of my biggest challenges in my life is balance. I feel like I sign myself up for a lot, make plans with more people than I should (and sometimes fail at being a good wife because I forget to factor in lazy nights at home with my husband), and generally try to make everyone else happy that I leave little time for myself.

We began Rather Be Reading at the end of last year so this was our first full year to work on this project together. I found that one of the hardest things was wanting to work on my actual real-world work because I was so excited about wanting to grow RBR. When I was dealing with a particularly difficult business-related thing (i.e. taxes), I found myself opening a new tab so I could begin my next post or proof something for Estelle instead of doing what I should have been.

instagram photo of hand reflection on laptop screenMy challenge was saying no to blog-related things when I had weddings to work on. My business blogs suffered because I was pouring everything I could into RBR. This is problematic because, well, RBR isn’t a source of income for me. It’s easy for me to want to pour myself into RBR, though, because I love how it brings Estelle and I together. I love the community. I love the friends I’ve made through it. I love absolutely everything about getting to read a book and share my thoughts.

Even though Estelle and I have set up a system where we’re always ahead with our writing, moving forward, I think I need to be a little more scheduled. I need to make sure I’m getting through my work to-do list before I begin working on something for RBR. Being self-employed is hard, y’all. I love that with RBR I always have E by my side, but with my photography businesses, it’s just me. There are a lot of hats to wear, some of which are more favorable than others. In 2013, I just need to make sure I’m focused and both things are balanced.

Something I’ve done to keep me focused is to work outside our home. I allow myself to go to a coffee shop or work from a laptop-friendly restaurant that doesn’t mind me staying for a while. If I take away the distractions at home (my dogs, laundry, TV, etc.), I find that helps free up tons of time. I’ve actually had a few conversations with my dear hubby about the household chores so that he can help pitch in a little more too. I love having a clean home, but I need his help if I want to be able to hang out with friends, blog, and be a businesswoman. (He’s been trying really hard to help out more, even if some things show up in the oddest places because he doesn’t know where they belong.)

My question to you, friends, is whether you struggle with this too. Do you find yourself working on your blogs when you should be doing other things? How do you maintain balance?