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On a Personal Note: Making Moves

“We just didn’t know what we wanted.” My husband said this to me this weekend while we were hanging out on our couch. We realized this week would be the one year mark since we sold the house we lived in for three years, and decided to move into an apartment in the city. The […]

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December 27, 2013 - 11:34 am

Estelle's End of the Year Survey (So Long 2013), Estelle - […] loved the support we’ve been getting on our ONE A PERSONAL NOTE feature… including Magan’s post on foster care + mine on making […]

November 4, 2013 - 4:16 pm

Alexa Y. - Oh E! This post is absolutely beautiful. I’m so happy for you and James, and that you both feel like you’ve made the right decision to make that move into the city. It’s a learning experience to be sure, but you guys sure are having fun while you do it! I can’t wait to see more of what unfolds for you both. I can actually relate to this, albeit in a different way. 2013 is a year of me jumping into various things, really, and it’s been an interesting experience. So much has changed for me this year, and so much will change again come December! Here’s to hoping that our big leaps into something new and unknown completely pay off even more ๐Ÿ™‚

November 1, 2013 - 8:15 am

Wendi - I’m inching up close to 40 and looking back into my 20s and 30s the best decisions I made always involved moves. The absolutely best decision was the one that was 900+ miles.

November 1, 2013 - 12:04 am

YAY OCTOBER! - […] but I FEEL THE SAME WAY AS ELENA. I’m learning to just accept this about myself! 5. Loved Estelle’s post on making moves! I can 100% relate to this […]

October 31, 2013 - 7:50 pm

Jamie - Love this post, E! I struggle with making moves in my life. It’s something I’ve struggled with so hard this year. And then I keep wondering why I’m still unhappy about certain things. I get scared and let fear give me a million reasons why it’s not “the right time” to make a move and talk myself out of it. It took all the guts I had to apply to that job in the city and then when it didn’t happen I was SAD but I was embarrassingly thinking, at the same time as being really bummed, that WHEW that would have been scary to move, how would we have afforded it, how could I be away from Genevieve like that, etc. etc.

Your post was really encouraging and what I needed to hear. I’m tired of not making the moves and perpetually being stuck in a standstill.

Happy for you guys! ๐Ÿ™‚

October 22, 2013 - 1:28 pm

Lisa Schensted - SO proud of both of you for just going for it! How are you to know what you want until you try?

Be brave!

oxo

October 21, 2013 - 10:43 am

Jess @ Gone with the Words - Such a beautiful post, Estelle. ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m glad you guys made a decision that was yours. It’s easy to make decisions based on how it will affect others in your life, putting your own happiness or desires second. ‘Tis life sometimes. So I’m happy you guys are happy. And I hope it continues this way FOOOOOREVEEEEEER. ๐Ÿ˜€

October 20, 2013 - 3:03 pm

Heather - This post on getting past the misgivings and doubts was dead-on! A couple of years ago, I was feeling very much the way you did. My husband and I had been I relatively small College Station, TX for quite a few years together, when he got a fantastic job opportunity that took us to Austin. While I thought it would be good eventually, I was so apprehensive about leaving familiarity and family for a larger place, with more unknowns than what we’d dealt with before. Now that we’ve been here for nearly 2 years, it’s been so amazing to see just how right the change was for us in many ways, and how much we needed that push. Of course there are some things that are still not as ideal as they were, but the overall picture is pretty fantastic. May your circumstances become ever better as you grow into the place your lives have brought you!

October 20, 2013 - 9:02 am

Shelve It: A Surprise in the Mail, Estelle - […] On a personal note: Making Moves […]

October 19, 2013 - 1:16 pm

Maggie @ Just a Couple More Pages - When I first started reading I was afraid the thing you didn’t know you wanted was going to be about how it was a mistake to move to NYC. I’m so happy you were right about wanting that and that this last year has been such a good one for you guys. I’ve had lots of changes in my life in the last year and lots and lots in the last 6 months but I couldn’t be happier and more thankful for the changes I’ve made. Back when I was just dreaming about making these big life changing decisions I read this quote from Earl Nightingale (I think on Pinterest) that really resonated with me: “Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”

And I owe you an email, it’s on my list of things to do at work today ๐Ÿ™‚

October 18, 2013 - 9:11 pm

Betty - ๐Ÿ™‚ holy gorgeous photos!!!
about the post… making big decisions as adults is so scary! we moved into the house we are in 2 years ago and are really happy here, but leaving our old house broke my heart! so much happened in that house— we came home from our wedding to that house, i was pregnant in that house, brought my babies home to that house— and then we were leaving it behind. i remember sitting in baby betty’s room the day we left crying my eyes out because i knew the people moving in had a little boy and would paint right over the walls we so carefully painted just for her! man, i get all emotional just thinking about it! But… here we are.. a couple years later and sure enough, we adapted and are making memories in our new house. i think the most important thing is being with the people you love. no matter where you are or what you are facing, if they are with you, you’ll get through it. I think people miss out on a lot of things because of fear. Sometimes the best things are waiting for us– we just need the guts to take a risk and discover what those things are! <3

October 18, 2013 - 8:59 pm

Natalie - So good. So good!

I like life to be a moving target. When my husband and I sold off our house full of STUFF and moved to NYC, we didn’t have any idea what the future would bring. We have been surprised almost daily ever since.

I always wonder what surprising thing we’ll decide to do next.

And yeah, I miss Target too.

October 18, 2013 - 1:51 pm

ashley - This post came at a much needed time in my life. Thank you for that. I, myself, am learning that it’s okay to jump/leap because this box cane get boring. Sending you luck and love.

October 18, 2013 - 1:40 pm

Ellice - What an uplifting post Estelle! Change is hard sometimes, even if it’s a change that you’re excited about. I’m so happy that this move has ended up being a good thing for you and your husband. ๐Ÿ™‚

October 18, 2013 - 10:45 am

Jen @ Pop! Goes The Reader - This was such a beautiful and inspiring post, Estelle, and one that couldn’t have come at a better time for me, personally-speaking. Lately, I’ve often found myself musing over prospect of great change and weighing the possible outcomes in terms of taking chances versus playing it safe as I’ve sought employment in my field of interest. While I’m lucky and thankful to have found steady employment in this economy in the field of law, it could hardly be considered my passion. In truth, I’ve always dreamt of working in publishing in some capacity and translating my passion for books and reading, and more specifically the importance of children’s literature, into a career. Unfortunately, there are few opportunities to do so where I live and I’ve often wondered whether I would have to make a rather drastic change in order to truly get what I want. More specifically, I’ve recently given some thought to moving to an entirely different area like New York City, where there seems to be an increased number of positions available and therefore a greater opportunity to make my dreams become a reality. While it’s an accepted fact that many of our decisions are dictated by fear, I’ve often wondered to what degree this is healthy, particularly in my own life. My fear of moving to an entirely new country where I know no-one and would be entirely on my own has left me frozen in place, too afraid to make a decision and yet unhappy with the current status of my life. I don’t want to become trapped in a career that I don’t find fulfilling, but I don’t know if I have the courage to take a leap of fate and risk it all on the slim chance that I might finally achieve what I’ve only ever dreamt about.

Either way, your own personal story of transition and change was a beautiful one, and I’m so happy that your choices, however difficult, have ultimately paid off. I can only hope that whatever choice I ultimately make will prove half as fulfilling.

October 18, 2013 - 9:12 am

Ginger @ GReads! - Oh Estelle, beautiful personal post that I feel a lot can relate to. It’s so scary to make a huge decision in your life that will change things drastically. I think it’s human nature to second guess yourself & wonder, was this the right move?!

What feels like so long ago now (but really it was just a few years ago) I made the decision to go back to school. I knew it would be a huge shift in my life and would change so much. But I also knew that change would bring great things for my future. It was going to be a lot of work (still is), but it was something I wanted: a job that was more than just a job, a purpose. In the next year my world is about to shift again as I come to an end of my college career and venture into this whole teaching thing. It’s scary to think about because it’s not just my transition from one job (what I do now) to finishing college & beginning to teach. There are so many other factors that come into play like: where will I live? (Yup I’ll be homeless come next summer). How will I make money? (I’ll have to quit my full time job next fall to student teach full time) So so many scary things!!! But I keep reminding myself, these are the choices I’ve made and these are the changes that will occur because of that. Having faith in myself is what gets me through it. You gotta have that. Oh yeah.. and happiness. Always hold on to the little bit of happiness you can find.

I think you’re already doing that ๐Ÿ™‚

October 18, 2013 - 9:09 am

alice-jane - This post was really beautiful! I love your personal posts (as well as your reviews!) and this one was really good.

I’ve moved several times and just moved recently, but surprisingly, I’m happy about it. The views that you’ve provided are simply gorgeous and best of luck with everything!