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Review/Discussion: Uses for Boys by Erica Lorraine Scheidt

Uses for Boys by Erica Lorraine Scheidt Publication Date: January 15, 2013 Publisher: St Martin’s Press Pages: 240 Target audience: Mature Young Adult Keywords: sexual relationships, parent relationship examples, effects of neglect Format read: ARC downloaded from NetGalley (Thank you!) Summary: Anna’s mom has set a poor example for her by continuously hopping from one relationship […]

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September 30, 2014 - 12:01 am

Fifteen Must-Read Tough Subject Books - […] Uses for Boys — language + actual way it was written, but also sexually explicit, borderline uncomfortable for me — sex isn’t described as overly poetic and is raw and often very in-your-face […]

January 29, 2013 - 4:11 am

Jasmine Rose - I haven’t read this and I don’t really intend to, but I did find your post really interesting (not in a bad way, promise.)

Something you mentioned at the end kind of made me think. Everyone always gets disgruntled when a girl finds happiness through a boy, but I think that needs to be written sometimes because it does happen. Very rarely is it healthy, but it does happen.
Since my (older by a couple years) sister was 15 (she’s almost 22 now) she hasn’t spent more than a month of her life not fixating on a guy. Now, this certainly isn’t healthy. Just recently it lead to a marriage that ended after 2 months. She was with another guy within weeks. I wish she would take the time to just love herself and I’m hoping one day she’ll get to that point.

There are, however, healthy cases as well. I’ve always had pretty happy with myself and who I am, but when I started dating my husband he really brought it out in me more. He’s helped me grow into the person I am today and he’s still helping me grow. There were definitely times when I relied on him totally for my happiness, but over time I realized that /I/ need to make me happy first and foremost.

Sorry for the long-winded comment 😛

January 28, 2013 - 11:08 am

April Books & Wine - I read Uses For Boys and fell into the MEH camp. Like, for me personally, it was a little much — like I get that sex can be gross, but I don’t know, it just was too much. And far from being sex positive, I felt like it was kind of the opposite — like look at all the bad things that will happen if you do ‘it’ – Anna loses her friends and drops out of school.


Going back to your question — I kind of think that Anna totally did follow in her mom’s footsteps, I don’t know that she was doomed or anything, but like even in the end she was still looking for a dude’s approval (Sam) and while he’s a good guy and all, I still sort of felt like it was just like her mom to seek validation.

Plus, okay even thinking more about this, I am getting heated up because the insinuation that if one doesn’t have a male parent, one will not turn out okay gets me mad. Like, I’m not sure that I believe that. And I know, I know anecdotal evidence does not mean a thing, but I know a ton of people who had single parents and they turned out thriving and fine and well adjusted. It just, ugh, it annoys me. And while I am not sure that’s what the author was driving it, that seems kind of like an underlying message.

January 25, 2013 - 6:10 am

Lori - This is a very thought provoking book and I think you said everything so well. I really enjoyed the story. I knew a lot of girls that turned to sex and boys as a way of escaping something and this was the first time I’ve ever come across a YA book about it. I also really loved the writing style. It was so unique and like you said, it worked!

January 24, 2013 - 9:46 pm

Bookworm1858 - This book was so hard for me to read precisely because of those decisions…and the fact that I felt so distanced from Anna-I had no idea why she chose to make the decisions she did because they are so far from my own life experience.

January 24, 2013 - 1:49 pm

Asheley Tart (@BookwormAsheley) - I LOVED this book, so much, and part of that for me was Scheidt’s writing style. Scheidt has a wonderfully blunt, choppy, flowy style that I connect to as a reader, speaker, and blogger. I am already excited for whatever her next writing venture will be because I really enjoy writing like that. (My mind thinks in that same style and format.)

I also loved this story a lot, and I think that is really special considering I’m extremely new to the YA contemporary scene. This is one of the heaviest ‘issues’ books I’ve read, and I think Anna is one of the most unique voices out there. Unfortunately, she represents a very real part of the demographic, and I think this author captured that so well. I know this because of my job experience as a OB/GYN/L&D nurse. That is not a spoiler for the book, for those who may not have read it yet – it is merely an observation from a women’s health perspective and a remark on my career and experiences. I also understand from both the standpoint of a person who has read the book and cringed AND as a women’s health nurse that works with EXACTLY this population – I understand why lots of people will probably not like this book. It’s hard to read and to know stuff like this.

Also from my personal experience, I have thankfully not followed in my parents’ footsteps. I am not Anna and have never had the experiences of Anna – but I can certainly understand that Anna felt a void. I do not understand her actions – why she let the behavior on the bus begin and the snowballing from there, like you mention – but I do believe that in the absence of good parenting, *sometimes* all it takes is a little bit of nurturing from other places – teachers, friends’ parents, etc – to entirely change a person’s life or perspective. To CHANGE a WHOLE, ENTIRE life, which is basically changing a generation or a legacy. I am a testament to that. I totally agree that it would be great to re-visit future Anna, like Ginger suggests. I would love to know that the hope I felt at the end of the book turned into something positive for her character.

Also, I think it is super cool when one book can make so many different people think so many different things. Great post, Magan.

January 24, 2013 - 10:34 am

Alexa Y. - I just finished reading this last Sunday, and I must say, the subject matter really got me thinking as well. It’s interesting to consider how Anna’s lack of a mother’s influence in her life, and the lack of a father might have affected her outlook on her own life and relationships. That might have played a part, but I also think that a lot of what Anna did go through was something that she chose without thinking too much about it and going on her impulses.

Your post has got me thinking. I’ll probably come back later with an even more coherent response.

January 24, 2013 - 8:34 am

Ginger @ GReads! - This book has become such a hot topic to discuss. I think it’s a nod to the author for creating literature that gets people talking, don’t you? I know you and I have discussed this in thorough detail, so I won’t rehash everything. But from reading your questions above, it made me consider this… do you think sometimes people (especially young, impressionable people) make bad/wrong decisions just because? Like maybe there isn’t some huge meaning behind.. sometimes those decisions are just made & thus it becomes a catalyst for where the rest of their life takes them? I would like to revisit Anna several years down the road & hear her thoughts on how she views her childhood/teenage years. I have a feeling it would be very different. At least I hope so.

Magan: Empty by K.M. Walton

Empty by K.M. Walton Publication Date: January 1, 2013 Publisher: Simon Pulse Pages: 256 Target audience: Young adult Keywords: depression, obesity, divorce, bullying Format read: ARC from S&S via Edelweiss (Thank you!) Previously read book by K.M. Walton: Cracked Summary: Dell is kicked off her softball team for continuing to gain too much weight and no longer […]

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January 27, 2013 - 9:01 pm

Rather Be Reading Blog: Magan's Shelve It --> January 27, 2013 - […] → A list of February 2013 Young Adult (YA) Book Releases → A Review and Discussion of Uses for Boys by Erica Lorraine Scheidt → A Review of Small Town Sinners by Melissa Walker → An Interview with Daria Snadowsky → A Review of Empty by K.M. Walton […]

January 23, 2013 - 1:16 am

Kristen Evey - Like others have said, I do enjoy depressing stories with unhappy endings, but I don’t think this particular one is for me. Bullying and kids being mean to other kids is a sensitive issue for me. Great review though, Magan! Sounds like this is a book that would be good for some to read!

January 22, 2013 - 5:30 pm

Magan - I like to read unhappy stories sometimes, too, Lori. Though lately, I’ve been thinking I should try something happier. Estelle has given me lots of happier options so I don’t come across as a depressed-all-the-time-reader on the blog. 😉

January 22, 2013 - 5:23 pm

Magan - Elena, I knew when I read this book that it wouldn’t be a you book. I know how uncomfy you get about bullying so yeah, no, this one wouldn’t be for you at all. 🙁

January 22, 2013 - 4:44 pm

Magan - Alexa, it’s weird because I didn’t know to expect to be sad when I began reading Empty. It was much more overwhelming than I expected and things really took me by surprise. K.M. did do a fantastic job tapping into this girl’s mind, you’re right.

January 21, 2013 - 4:50 pm

Alexa Y. - This just makes me sad. I don’t always need a happy ending for my books (since I know that’s not always the case in real life), but this certainly sounds like it would be very hard for me to read. I do think it’s great that the author managed to tap into what a bullied teen’s experience is really like sometimes, harsh as it can be.

January 21, 2013 - 4:07 pm

elena - I felt nauseated just reading your review so I don’t think this is the book for me. It sounds SO intense and the fact that it’s a not a happy story makes me worry. Teenagers can be really brutal, gah.

January 21, 2013 - 6:31 am

Lori - I haven’t heard too much about this one, but I’m definitely intrigued now. Sometimes I really like to read an unhappy story. I think it makes me put things in perspective…or maybe I’m just weird.

Estelle: Live Through This by Mindi Scott

Live Through This by Mindi Scott ( website | twitter ) Publication Date: October 2, 2012 Publisher: Simon Pulse Pages: 304 Target audience: Mature young adult Keywords: blended families, abuse, secrets, high school Format read: Paperback borrowed from Ginger at GReadsBooks! Summary:  Coley is on the dance team in school, has a crush on a sweet […]

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September 30, 2014 - 8:18 pm

Fifteen Must-Read Tough Subject Books - […] Live Through This — sexual abuse by a relative, mental instability of the MC who questions right from wrong […]

December 15, 2012 - 10:29 am

Live Through This Mindi Scott Book Review - […] Rather Be Reading – “Here, folks, is the kind of writing I yearn for” […]

December 1, 2012 - 1:50 am

Kristen Evey - Wow. Solely for your description of the writing of this novel, I am going to read this. 🙂

November 25, 2012 - 9:04 am

Estelle: Shelve It from Rather Be Reading Blog (11/25/2012) - […] Freefall by Mindi Scott: Thanks to Anna (Anna Reads) for sending along Ginger’s (G Reads Books) copy of this novel! Ginger speaks so highly of Mindi and her work, and I can’t wait to try out another one of her books after really enjoying Live Through This. […]

November 18, 2012 - 9:32 pm

Magan: Shelve It, November 18, 2012 - […] – Live Through This by Mindi Scott — Ginger and Estelle have raved about this one. Beyond excited to read this one. (Goodreads | Estelle’s Review) […]

November 10, 2012 - 11:09 am

Alexa @ Alexa Loves Books - This review seriously has made me more eager to read this book. While it’s going to be difficult to read knowing it features sexual abuse, I do believe a book like this can have a powerful impact.

November 9, 2012 - 2:08 pm

April Books & Wine - I think I am going to read this over the 3-Day weekend after finishing Black City and Falling Kingdoms, seems like just the right book to pull me back to reality. I like books that just slam into you and are hard to read, if that makes sense?

Either way, this was a fantastic review.

November 9, 2012 - 9:19 am

Ginger @ GReads! - Estelle, you have captured the beauty in this novel so well. Though the subject matter is something no one ever wants to read about, I think Mindi did a superb job of getting the message across. I adore this woman’s writing and can’t wait for you to experience Freefall.