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Random Ramblings and Motherhood

Well, hello there! *stretches fingers and warms them up over the keyboard* Oh, where to start? Really I’m not quite sure, but I have so many thoughts floating through my head. I’m here and it’s been a long while and I’m sorry about that. Let’s see if I can rewind to kind of explain what […]

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February 19, 2017 - 1:37 am

Melissa @ Writer Grrl Reads - This just brought tears to my eyes. You’re such an incredible woman, Magan, and I’m so awed by the way you life your life. You’re so warm and caring, and yet so real and so raw. Truly an inspiration to me.

February 14, 2017 - 3:59 pm

Emma - Welcome back! It feels so special to see snippets of your girls on your social media and I’m glad you are feeling like you’re in a better place now. Congratulations on your new job as well! Switching jobs is always stressful but this change sounds like an exciting one.

February 10, 2017 - 6:00 am

Lori - Oh Magan, I can relate to so much of this. I too have had that feeling of coming up for air with both of my boys. I’ve questioned whether or not I did have slight PPD with both…or maybe it’s just normal new motherhood/hormones stuff? Who knows, but it’s so nice to feel more like myself these days. I love this post and I’m so happy you guys are back! Reading and blogging are my ‘me’ time. I’m sure you could use a little bit of that too. 🙂

February 9, 2017 - 9:29 pm

Chrystal - Your babies have lovely names. Congrats on such a happy and beautiful family.

Your new job as children’s book consultant sounds interesitng. Going to have to look into that. 😉

February 9, 2017 - 5:40 pm

Magan - Thank you, Sarah! Congratulations to you! The transition is so hard, yeah? It’s like some of the BEST and HARDEST moments all wrapped up in one. I’m so happy to be back! I’ve really missed this! xo

February 9, 2017 - 4:41 pm

Sarah - I absolutely loved this post! I’ve just had my second child (now eight weeks old) and am totally feeling you. It’s lovely to see you back.

On a Personal Note: Reflecting on Foster Care

I recently stayed up entirely too late finishing How to Love by Katie Cotugno. Estelle mailed it to me and on a highlighter pink post-it note, said it had to be my next read. How was I to turn down such a request? Estelle’s already reviewed How to Love here on the blog so I’m not going to dive […]

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December 22, 2013 - 12:43 pm

Annual End of Year Book Survey – 2013 Edition! - […] willingness to open themselves up to their readers and discuss personal issues like Magan’s reflection on foster care and pregnancy announcement make the experience seems all the more personal and allows their readers […]

December 7, 2013 - 3:04 am

Chloe Lee - Such a beautiful post! I just had to comment, and not ashamed to say it brought tears to my eyes!!!

December 2, 2013 - 9:59 am

YAY OCTOBER! - […] admit it 3. Gayle Forman’s post on endings: Love this post and agree with so much of it! 4. This beautiful post from Magan — Yep. Made me cry. 5. Turning A Book Into A Commercial Empire: Very thought provoking post […]

November 19, 2013 - 10:13 am

Meg - A gorgeous post that touched my heart!

November 14, 2013 - 10:22 am

elena - my heart is so full for you right now! like it is physically aching because there’s so much love in this post. this was an absolutely beautiful, beautiful post. all the good things for you. <3 <3 <3

November 13, 2013 - 1:36 pm

Alexa Y. - Oh M, I adore this post! You’ve expressed yourself so beautifully and shared so much of your life with us via this one post. Thank you for being so brave, so honest and so real with all of us. Your parenthood journey with your foster daughter and your baby on the way is beautiful and inspiring, and I wish you lots of love and joy and peace all the time. Lots of love xo

November 12, 2013 - 8:05 pm

Melissa @ Writer Grrl Reads - Oh, Magan, your posts always make me cry! This is such a beautiful story of your connection to the book! Baby Blasig is so lucky to have you as a mom, as is your foster daughter. What an amazing, inspiring, love-filled, incredible journey your family has been on in the last year, and thank you so much for sharing it with us. You are such a beautiful and inspiring woman — I’m glad to call you a friend xoxo

November 12, 2013 - 6:19 pm

alisa selene - I think this is such an amazing review..love how you tied into your own experiences!

November 12, 2013 - 3:26 pm

alice-jane - Wow, such a powerful post! I didn’t know that How to Love could be that touching, real, and just full of feels but after reading your post, it’s definitely been bumped up my TBR list.

Your foster daughter is incredibly lucky to have you in her life and best of luck with your journey! I’m sure it’ll be wonderful!

November 12, 2013 - 2:59 pm

Lisa Schensted - Oh Magan. Thank you for sharing your story and your emotions with us all as readers!

You are so brave. Both to share so openly and to take on the journey as a foster momma and brand new baby momma too.

And can I just say that I do not believe for one single moment you were out of your league? You are loving and kind and considerate and so very warm. You were born to do this. I am so very happy for you and D and baby girl and baby Blasig!

I think about you guys so often and celebrate all the blessings in your life! God could not have chosen a more deserving family than yours.

And beeteedubs – do NOT feel any shame or guilt about the guest room situation. That’s just another situation where you were being so delightfully YOU and putting others first. No shame in that game. Perspective was gained, yes. But that doesn’t mean you should feel bad in the slightest.

Forever your fan! oxo Lisa

November 12, 2013 - 2:08 pm

Maggie @ Just a Couple More Pages - Beautiful post! I think foster parents are so amazing and I think it’s wonderful what you guys are doing. My grandparents were foster parents to teens once my dad and his sister were teenagers and they adopted two of the girls. One of my adopted aunts is now retired and works as an advocate for children in the foster care system and there are some amazing stories and some devastating stories I hear from her. Best of luck with everything going forward.

November 12, 2013 - 12:07 pm

Les - Magan, you have such a gift in using your words to convey your feelings and emotions. Praying for you and that the love of Jesus continues to shine through your words and actions. Love you!

November 12, 2013 - 10:10 am

Elizabeth - Magan, this is beautiful and your last paragraph SO true!! That little girl and the baby on the way are so blessed to have you and Dustyn in their lives. Hugs.

November 12, 2013 - 9:53 am

Daphne - beautifully written. you’ve really captured the unexpectedness of becoming a parent. even though i was pregnant for 9 months & had tons of time to prepare, i remember the first day alone with my baby boy & he wouldn’t stop crying no matter what i did. i had to call my mother in law to come over and as soon as she got there and picked him up, he immediately stopped crying. he could smell my fear, i swear it! it sounds like you’re going to be a great mother, you’re so loving and worried about doing it right. good luck to you and God bless. 🙂

November 12, 2013 - 9:45 am

Ghenet Myrthil - Aww, beautiful post. Your foster daughter is very lucky to you have you in her life. I’m really looking forward to reading HOW TO LOVE very soon. 🙂

On a Personal Note: Hello From Magan!

Hi there, friends! Magan here. I hope you had a fantastic Fourth of July and were able to relax, sip a fun summery drink, and watch beautiful fireworks! I’m not entirely sure if you’ve noticed, but I’ve stepped back a bit from blogging since May. I just wanted to hop on and say hello… and […]

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July 8, 2013 - 6:09 pm

Cynthia - The hair looks great! The picture from the middle reminds me of that girl from The Ring, lol! I’m so happy for you and your baby! I will definitely keep you guys in my prayers and thoughts, I’m sure you are both doing great. It’s definitely a life change having a little one around but they are such a blessing. I hope you guys get to keep her forever.

July 8, 2013 - 12:12 pm

Tara - You and the hubs are doing such an amazing thing with baby girl!! It takes a special kind of person to be able to open your heart to a foster child and I admire you guys so much. You keep being an amazing mom and all of us bloggers will always be here for you 🙂

July 7, 2013 - 1:31 pm

Alexa Y. - I’ve missed seeing you around M! But I’m so glad to hear that things are going well with the baby. You’re doing an incredible job, and it’s totally understandable that you’d have less time to read and blog. I’ll be praying for you, D + the baby! Lots of love <3

July 6, 2013 - 6:32 pm

Janita @ Book, Interrupted - Amazing post! It’s so inspiring that you have a foster child and could go on such a beautiful trip as well! I’ve visited Colorado before, it’s so scenic and awe-inspiring. There’s something so peaceful about being surrounded by those mountains 🙂

I love the hair as well. I just went through a major transformation as well. I cut off almost 10 inches of hair recently, so right now my hair is resting on my shoulders. Weirdest feeling after having long hair for such a loooong time.

July 6, 2013 - 6:23 pm

Jamie - Love you lady! Definitely missed your presence but I am so genuinely happy for everything that is going on with you right now and think you are EXACTLY where you need to be — loving on that little girl! 🙂 We love you!!!

July 6, 2013 - 5:16 pm

Lisa - So much love for this post! Thanks for catching us up! I think of you and your lovely family quite often!

July 6, 2013 - 1:24 pm

elena - miss and love you, lady!! so glad it’s going well with the bb (fingers x’d for you and your fam!) and your hair is so wonderful. colorado looks absolutely lovely. lots and lots of positive thoughts and love xoxo

July 6, 2013 - 12:03 pm

Asheley Tart (@BookwormAsheley) - Love your pictures, lady!
Love this personal note. Love every single time you post on the blog, whether it’s a lot or a little, personal or not. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re so fortunate to have the best co-blogger out there AND you and D are so fortunate to have that little miss to make such a wonderful impression on. Everything will balance out and work out and be just so. You are amazing and I love every form of you that I get whether it is twitter or blog or pictures on instagram or whatever. DO NOT let that sound too creepy cause I’m not a weirdo! xo

July 6, 2013 - 11:50 am

Jen @ Pop! Goes The Reader - I’m so glad to hear that things are going well, Magan! I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and sending all the positive vibes I can in hopes that your foster daughter can become a permanent fixture in your family 🙂 Your photos from Colorado are absolutely stunning and I love your new haircut. I’ve been growing my own out for quite awhile now and while I do like it long, sometimes I get the urge to chop it all off as it can be a bit of a hassle at times. That said, I always tend to regret it immediately so I’m going to hold off on the impulsive haircuts for now 😛 I can’t wait to hear what you thought of I’ve Got Your Number by Sophie Kinsella, which I adored, and Nantucket Blue and Please Ignore Vera Dietz, both of which I’m curious to read in the future. Best wishes!

July 6, 2013 - 10:40 am

Bookworm1858 - Thanks for the update Magan! I love your new shorter hair-it looks so thick and shiny (my hair is very thin and baby fine). I will also be praying for your foster daughter and her future with your family!

July 6, 2013 - 10:21 am

Jess @ Gone with the Words - Magan, I am SO happy to hear things are still going great with baby girl! You don’t know how much I want for you guys to be able to keep her in your lives. I’ll definitely be praying for that. As someone who has pretty much been absent a lot around the blogosphere these last few months, I totally understand where you’re coming from. I think sometimes we need these “breaks”, otherwise blogging would become like a job. In other words, don’t worry about us. 🙂 We’ll still be around!

LOVE the Colorado pictures! I so stalked them on IG haha.

XOXOXO

July 6, 2013 - 9:30 am

Amy - My dear Magan, I’m so incredibly happy for you that the little lady is doing so well! I think about how you are doing all the time, and I wish I had a few more minutes in the day to actually ASK you instead of just WONDER. But I’m certainly hoping that things turn out exactly as you are hoping they will, and that your foster daughter becomes a permanent part of your little family. <33
Also, birthday snow cones pretty much guarantee an excellent day. Now I am craving one!
P.S. Your pictures from Colorado are gorgeous! As all your pictures usually are. And I LOVE LOVE LOVE your new hair! Such a pretty length.

On a Personal Note: Magan in High School

There have been a few books that have really hit home for me or elements of them that I’ve related to so, so well. Just last week, I couldn’t stop thinking about Eleanor and Park because so many of Eleanor’s thoughts felt like I lived them. They felt real to me. This made me start […]

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March 8, 2013 - 11:52 pm

Jasmine Rose - So much of this sounds like my life.
My town was so small our school was literally pre-k through 12.
I met my husband during track season (the only sport I sort of enjoyed) when I was sixteen and we got married when I was 19. Luckily we were surrounded by people who supported us, though. Heck, most of our church helped at the wedding.
It took a while for us to say “I love you,” but I was his first girlfriend and I was terrified of breaking his heart since I’d been in three previous relationships where everything seemed to be going great and then BAM I just didn’t like them anymore. In the end, though, we both knew we wanted to be together pretty early on.
It’s kind of funny looking back on it because neither of us talked about wanting to get married specifically, but we’d talk about our future lives. We even had a hypothetical cat that we named 😛

Also, you should know you’re the one to finally convince me I need to read Eleanor & Park :]

March 7, 2013 - 7:49 pm

Magan - Thanks, Anna! 🙂 Young Magan says “HI!” 🙂 xo

March 7, 2013 - 1:07 pm

Anna - LOVE THE PICTURES ESPECIALLY! Hi young Magan! <3 <3 <3

March 3, 2013 - 1:50 pm

Magan - Tara, thank you! This post has kept me thinking about all kinds of things since I wrote it. It’s crazy how such minor moments in our lives can make us connect to books in such profound ways. 🙂 xoxo

March 3, 2013 - 1:49 pm

Magan - Ginger, even though we didn’t know each other back then, I’m so, so glad we know one another now. Seriously — love getting random g-chats and texts and messages from you. Thank goodness book blogging brought us together! And all of those books you’ve named at the end of your comment? Favorites of mine. Except, well, you know I’ve failed and still haven’t read Amy & Roger’s Epic Detour. Major slacker here. I have bawled my way through all of them, so I can’t imagine how you felt having read them with personal experience losing a parent you were so close to. Love you, G.

March 3, 2013 - 1:47 pm

Magan - Maria! Thank you so much for reading our blog and for your awesome comment. It means so much to me. And thanks! I’m so glad we like the same books! xo

March 3, 2013 - 1:46 pm

Magan - Alexa! Thank you so much! I’m so glad you’ve found you’re special someone so young, too. People certainly gave me the side-eye a lot when I told them I was getting married so young, but for real — best decision of my life. I love this man so much. I wish you and Macky all the best! I cannot wait to see wedding photos! xo

March 3, 2013 - 1:45 pm

Magan - Elena, you’re the best! Thank you for this comment. You know what’s strange? I could totally see you trying the lilac hair. That didn’t surprise me one bit when I read that. You’re brave. (I’m not sure I could ever do lilac — Dustyn might FLIP if I tried, but he’s surprised me and gone with some pretty crazy things I’ve done, so IDK.) Thanks for the awesome comment, love. xo

March 3, 2013 - 1:43 pm

Magan - Sharon! Thanks, doll! I didn’t realize you were homeschooled! I love that! I have read about a few YA characters that were homeschooled. Have you ever come across a book with that kind of character that you related super well to? I went to my best friend Leslie’s youth group a lot when I was in high school, so I relate to you there. Thank you for your sweet comment!

March 3, 2013 - 1:41 pm

Magan - Mandee! Thank you, love. It’s hard to be so open about things, but at the same time, I think a lot of people question why YA is what I prefer to read. I can just relate so, so well to all those emotions. Your comment was SPOT ON. And yay for you wearing a similarly colored dress! Great minds! 🙂

March 3, 2013 - 1:40 pm

Magan - Jenny, Mostly Good Girls is on my to-read list. I love good stories about friendship and you’ve intrigued me! You’re absolutely right that Miranda’s dialogue is awesome. I think it’s super awesome that you, too, married one of your best friends. I totally feel that way about Dustyn. And yes, if you haven’t read Jenny’s books you MUST READ THEM. MUST. 🙂 Thank you for commenting! I really appreciate it. xo

March 3, 2013 - 1:38 pm

Magan - April, I couldn’t agree more about friendship being important in a relationship. Not all relationships start out this way, as you said, but I think it definitely helps when you know you’ve got so much in common. 🙂 I wish (so badly) that I had been a music girl. My school was so small that we didn’t really have these things. (Well, at all.) I hope one day I can get my kids involved in something musically because Dustyn and I cannot carry a tune. And big families! Dustyn’s extended family is huge too — it was something I loved so much when I first met them all (we started dating right around Christmas so it was like BAM – meet the fam). Oldest kids are the best! April, I’m still positive that even at 15 lbs. heavier, you were adorable. 🙂 I could not agree more with you about the whole YA girls being privileged comment. I’ve been thinking that a WHOLE LOT lately. And finally — I didn’t realize you and Allison have known each other for so long! That’s amazing! Makes me admire your friendship even more. Thanks for the (AMAZING) comment, lady!

March 2, 2013 - 5:24 pm

April @ Books And Wine - Oh my gosh, you were so adorable in high school! And ugh, I need to read Eleanor and Park.

I can’t quite relate to Belly, but I like that a lot of people were into their friends. I think friendship makes a strong basis for a good romantic relationship. I always dated guys that I was acquaintance with. And then in college I went a bit wild and was very casual and awesome until I met Tony, who again, we dated without being friends first and surprisingly met while I was um, imbibing grown up beverages. But yeah, despite my not actually experiencing this, I love reading about it.

SPORTS! I was totally more of a music wing girl — I did choir and bad and was awful at both. I did do cheerleading my 8th grade and freshman year and went to the football games after that. So, yeah I like books about characters who are into sports even though I wasn’t particularly good at them.

My Life Next Door! I love that book because I could identify with it in that my extended family is huge – my dad and my mom both are one of five kids, and so going to my grandparents’ house, especially on my dad’s side is nuts like that book. ALSO! How cool that you have friends with families like that. I’m the oldest too! YAY OLDEST KID! AKA the best kid!

Hehehe, at cringing at old photos. Me too yo, but for different reasons. This is awful, but I was like 15 lbs heavier in high school and I just look so different now and looking at those pictures reminds me of a time when my self esteem and confidence weren’t quite where they are now.

I love love love that you have the courage to admit to being from a low income family where you couldn’t always have people over because of the food thing. Me too. I think a lot of YA is about girls who come from privileged backgrounds or you know at least upper middle class and it’s hard for me to relate to that coming from a lower economic class. But I think too, you really do come out of those experiences appreciative for what you have and not you know, stuck up or anything and kind of open minded.

I feel you on having a close group of friends. My coblogger Allison was one of my closest friends growing up and still is. I’m close with a few of those other people too.

Also, that picture of you and Dustyn at senior prom is sooooo cute!

March 1, 2013 - 4:42 pm

Jenny @ Mimosa Stimulus - There are a lot of times when I’m reading a book and have to stop and tell myself, “Yeah, that was so me in highschool.” I’d have to scour through my read list to remember some of them, but one that jumps to mind is Mostly Good Girls by Leila Sales. Violet and Katie remind me SO MUCH of my best friend and I in high school. It could have been a story about us.

I totally identify with the sporty thing and maybe that’s a big part of why I love Miranda Kenneally’s books so much. (That, and I think her dialogue is brilliant – it sounds like the ridiculous conversations I would have with my friends and family.) And I also identify with the crushing on your best friend thing. A few times it worked and then ended badly, once time it never happened, and then the last one I married. So it turned out well. And I know what it feels like to have that one who got away I guess. (I should probably read Jenny Han’s books, huh?)

I love this post so much. And I love it when I find a piece of myself in books.

March 1, 2013 - 4:23 pm

VeganYANerds - Magan, I adore how you and Estelle are so willing to share such personal stories on RBR! I loved your post on how you and Dustyn met and this one about high school is just as wonderful. I think this post highlights so well why adults still want to red YA. It’s so nice to relate to younger characters with the hindsight that we have now as adults.

p.s I wore a similar coloured dress to my formal, too!

March 1, 2013 - 4:00 pm

Sharon @ The Book Barbies - Thank you so much for sharing this, Magan! I know it can be difficult to get super personal, but I love getting to know you more through things like this. And I love it when people share pictures! That picture of you and Dustyn at prom – swoon! So beautiful!

It’s always interesting to me to read YA books, since I was homeschooled my entire life until I came to college. I can relate to some aspects, but there are tons of things I basically have to take authors’ word on. I was involved in our church youth group and a local homeschool theatre company, so I relate a lot of things to those experiences.

March 1, 2013 - 3:42 pm

elena - i love youuuuu so much and this made me love you even more.

i loved hearing about each book & your memories & all those lovely and totally nostalgic photos of you. it made me feel closer to you and want to hug you hard. i can’t relate to the young love aspect but i LOVE that you found the love of your life and it’s so, so sweet. your story makes me feel all sappy. i want to be experimental with my hair too!! i want to have lilac hair. too bad i have dark brown hair so it’s super hard to dye, le sigh. i did have dip dye last summer though. my family didn’t have their own house until i was in middle school so i get what you mean in that aspect.

the last photo is wonderful!! bb magan is so qt. thank you so much for sharing! <333

March 1, 2013 - 3:12 pm

Alexa Y. - Oh M, you made me tear up while reading this post. I have so much love for the fact that there are personal experiences that inform the way we read and relate to books, and I enjoyed seeing particular examples from your own life. It’s truly an honor that you were able to share this with all of us, and I don’t want to forget that ever.

Also, I love this particular line – “…young love can be lasting love.” You and I have talked a little about this before, and I’m in complete agreement. Macky and I met when I was 15 years old, and two dates later (!), I knew I loved him and he knew he loved me. And look where we are now – planning our wedding!

ACK. Now I wish we lived closer to each other so I could give you a MASSIVE hug.

March 1, 2013 - 3:12 pm

Maria - I just started reading this blog and I don’t know you, but this was a beautiful post and it really moved me. Thank you for sharing.

AND you seem to have an excellent taste in books. 🙂

March 1, 2013 - 10:34 am

Ginger @ GReads! - I loved reading this, Magan. Seeing a glimpse inside high school Magan through the books you’ve read (myself, too) makes it so much more tangible. I can totally see who you were and what you went through. I wish our lives would have crossed paths back then. I think you would have been such an influential friend in my life when I needed it most. Though I try my best not to regret anything, there are surely moments I would do over if given the chance.

Whenever I read a book about a teenager losing a parent, I immediately identify with them. Granted, I was 22 when my mom died, but I was still young and impressionable. That sort of loss is something a child never recovers from, unfortunately – no matter what age it happens at. We just learn to live a different sort of life. A few YA books that stand out most about this topic for me would be: Holier Than Thou, The Summer I Turned Pretty, The Survival Kit, Second Chance Summer, Amy & Roger’s Epic Detour, Moonglass, & The Beginning of After.

You are such a beautiful person, Magan <3

March 1, 2013 - 10:30 am

Tara - What a beautiful, heartfelt, personal post Magan! You can identify with so many stories and you did such a great job of pairing your life experiences with these books. That last pic of you and Dustyn at the prom is the cutest thing ever! xoxo